Alyssa Milano opens up about postpartum anxiety
In Canada roughly seven per cent of women report postpartum anxiety, but it’s believed that number is actually much higher due to unreported cases. Now, actress Alyssa Milano is sharing her own story about her postpartum struggle.
In a piece for Time magazine, the 45-year-old mom opened up about her experience with postpartum depression, saying she even asked to be admitted to the psych ward.
“My Generalized Anxiety Disorder was most likely triggered by my postpartum depression, and my journey with mental illnesses began with my journey into motherhood. In 2011, two years after suffering a miscarriage, I learned that I was pregnant with my first son, Milo — and it was a dream. My miscarriage was heartbreaking, but this pregnancy was beautiful… Following this idyllic image of motherhood, I wrote a strict birth plan: no induction of labor, no pain medication and no c-sections. I equated a natural birth to my value as a woman and as a mother — and I was determined not to stray from that course. But life does not always go according to plan,” she wrote. “That first night, after we returned from the hospital, I suffered my first anxiety attack. I felt like I had already disappointed my child. I felt like I failed as a mother, since I was not able to give birth vaginally or nourish him with the breast milk that had not come in yet. My heart raced. My stomach seized up. I felt like I was dying.”
As the anxiety attacks grew more common, Milano said going to work every day began to feel daunting — with the added guilt of leaving her son at home with caretakers. When she sought help, she wasn’t taken seriously — which is common among postpartum anxiety sufferers.
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“Finally, I hit a wall. One early morning, I went to the emergency room at 2:00 AM, asked for a psychiatrist and got help. I felt as though I had no choice: I asked to be committed; I stayed in a public psychiatric ward for three days,” wrote Milano. “At last, I began to feel as if my pain was recognized, but it wasn’t easy. One of my doctors dismissed my symptoms, and many of my colleagues, even female colleagues, still had trouble understanding that I was hurting at all… Here’s the thing about mental illnesses: you don’t always look sick, and the answers are not always clear or black-and-white. But we should not confront these challenges by placing more hurdles in front of Americans who desperately need the care. I was lucky enough to have the means and the insurance to get the help and support I needed. What happens to those mothers who don’t have the kind of support I received?”
After sharing her story on Twitter, Milano received thousands of comments from other moms sharing their own stories and thanking the star for her transparency on a topic that carries such stigma.
I have a secret.
I hope my story helps those that suffer from a mental illness feel less alone. I hope my story helps erase the stigma surrounding mental illness.
Please share your stories with me in the replies. #ThisIsMe https://t.co/etvs9DM0zV
— Alyssa Milano (@Alyssa_Milano) May 17, 2018
Thanks for sharing and helping us feel less alone, Alyssa.
I have PTSD. Like so many parents with medically complex kids and who have spent way too much time in hospitals & seen too much, I carry a lot of trauma with me. #ThisIsMe
— Elena Hung (@ElenaHung202) May 17, 2018
Thank you – removing the stigma is so important! I’m managing my anxiety and depression and helping my tween with his own mental health.
If folks live near universities, I recommend psychology student services for a lower cost therapy option. Made it affordable for us both.
— Moira B (@moidem) May 17, 2018
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You're not alone. I have generalized anxiety disorder. I've had it for years. It's a horrible feeling to live with. Some days are better than others. Exercise helps a lot. If I skip a day or two, the anxiety gets worse. Panic attacks are hell. I get those at times too. #ThisIsMe
— Laura (@itslaura4sure) May 17, 2018
Thanks for sharing your story. I have suffered from depression and anxiety since before I even had a name for them. It’s still a struggle but people like you who share their own struggles help me feel less alone in mine. Big cyber hug #ThisIsMe
— Dazy Jane (@dazyjane410) May 17, 2018
“Let’s remind each other that no one should have to face these challenges by themselves,
she wrote to end the piece. “And if you see me on the street, please come tell me that I am not alone.”
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