by Gena Kaufman
If you're just looking to have a little fun, we support that. But if you're over the right now kind of guys, and looking for a man who's going to stick around for a long time, we can help you spot them.
No, we can't put a flashing light on the available guys to let you know whether they're into commitment, but there's a great source of indicators already available online. A man's dating profile gives you a glimpse into his personality, and reading between the lines tells you even more about him. We spoke to dating coach Marni Battista of Dating with Dignity for her tips on how to spot the guys who are ready to get serious--and how to avoid the ones that who aren't in that place yet.
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Here are her top three clues that a guy is ready to settle down:
1) Positivity. You want a guy who describes what he wants, rather than what he doesn't want. According to Battista, if his online profile is filled with negatives, e.g. "I'm not interested in women who consider themselves high maintenance," or "Women who work more than 50 hours a week need not apply," this should be a red flag. "This is an indication that he may be dating in reaction to what didn't work in his last relationship," says Battista. On the other hand, if a man is describing what he wants and how the two of you could create a partnership together, the signs are pointing to the possibility that he's open and ready.
2) Variety. It really is the spice of life. Battista says that rather than age, a glimpse into a guy's lifestyle is the true measure of his maturity. If the majority of his profile pictures are of him partying with his friends, or showing off his abs on the beach, it's a good indication of his lifestyle. "Consider what this says about his values and how he spends his time," cautions Battista. What you should be looking for is a guy with varied interests, who is ready to put time into a relationship as well.
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3) Establishment. Whatever his job is, consider where he is in his career. "Men who say things like, 'I'm building my law practice,' or 'Shifting into photography after a long career as a graphic designer,' may intimate that the professional piece of his life isn't settled," Battista claims. For most men to be ready for a serious relationship, they need to feel settled in their career so they have time for something else.
What do you think says that a guy is ready for a serious relationship? Personally, negativity is the biggest turn-off for me, whether I want to be serious or not! Are you looking for a marriage guy, or just taking it easy right now?