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'F--- Kim K and the Royal Duchess': Dad defends moms and their 'post-baby' bodies

(Facebook/DaDMuM)
(Facebook/DaDMuM)

“F— Kim K and the Royal Duchess. Take as long as you need to look after yourself and get yourself back into the swing of things.”

Wise words from daddy blogger Brad Kearns.

He recently took to Facebook to voice his frustration over the pressure on women to physically bounce back after pregnancy.

“For 9 months of pregnancy the body is stretched, poked and prodded like a science experiment. Personal space is no longer a thing. From the bathroom to the toilet, everyone wants to know what’s going on. It swells and gains weight in places it hasn’t gained before. It’s OK though because everyone tells them they’re ‘glowing’ and that should make it all better because it’s beautiful and natural.”

“Then the baby is born. Holy f—. That was insane. The next few days are OK, people come in and visit, they say how great mum looks while they cuddle the baby. The partner takes a week off work to help out while they recover. But soon enough, the partner has to return to work. People aren’t visiting as often. They’re left with the original responsibilities and a newborn that isn’t sleeping properly yet. It’s hard to rest, hard to eat well, hard to even leave the house for some. Then they look at Instagram and Facebook. Oh what do you f—ing know, the celebrities with a personal trainer, chef, nanny and a make up artist post a picture that goes viral of their ‘post baby body.’ That only took 6 weeks. From that point onwards the expectation is set.”

“F— that expectation.”

Kearns describes how his own wife often struggles to get ready, claiming she has nothing to wear, when the reality is that it’s challenging to dress her new postpartum body.

“Find something that makes you feel nice. Clothes, candles or a new hairstyle. Nobody who loves you is going to care how long you take.”

He also warns that setting yourself up to fail by looking at celebrities like Kim Kardashian and the Duchess of Cambridge can be detrimental to your mental health.

“It’s unhealthy to think 6-12 weeks is enough time to bounce back with your pre-baby body. If you’re not ready, don’t set the bar so high that you fail. Set your own bar. The one that works for you.”

This isn’t the first time the blogger has been outspoken about pregnancy and parenting. He’s also vented his frustration with people judging his wife for being a stay at home mom, the struggles of buying a stroller and what it’s like dealing with having a stillborn baby.

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