In this week’s dose of unexpected (and unwanted) news, the internet is ablaze over some comments from musician and producer DJ Khaled. During a conversation with “The Breakfast Club,” a radio show, Khaled said that he won’t perform oral sex on his wife — but that he expects it from her, because he’s “the king.”
“You gotta understand, I’m the don. I’m the king,” Khaled said on the radio show. “It’s different rules for men. … We the king, so there’s some things y’all might not wanna do, [but] it gotta get done. I just can’t do what you want me to do. I just can’t.”
ok so I’m convinced he has the mind of a teenage boy pic.twitter.com/epzhPjceny
— Got Student Loans Homie Quan (@howcomeyousmell) May 4, 2018
Twitter users are calling out the fact that Khaled appears to worship his son, Asahd — but he wouldn’t have his son in the first place if it weren’t for his wife, Nicole Tuck. Some Twitter users also wondered if Khaled would feel differently if he’d had a daughter, rather than a son. It’s important to remember that what sex acts people choose to engage in (or refrain from) are entirely their decisions. While Tuck doesn’t appear to have weighed in on her husband’s statements, people are rightly pointing out that Khaled does seem to be promoting the idea that men deserve something that women don’t.
I Hope you take back what you said man.He has child that he spoils so fucking much But who brought him to live,the MOTHER. What if his Son was a daughter, would he spoil her? I don't think so, he doesn't even care about his wife, you only see him and his Son on insta @djkhaled https://t.co/lK4ySi0n1D
— Farah Aliyyah (@Jenlawrencefann) May 5, 2018
I wonder if Dj Khaled had a daughter if she would shown that same love, since her only duty in life would be to please her king.
— Kayla (@BIGSIS___) May 4, 2018
DJ Khaled literally worships the ground baby Asahd crawls on but won't put his mouf on the vagina that birth'd him.
— Obeehave, B Δ K Spr. 18 (@SylviaObell) May 4, 2018
HOW did @djkhaled appear in @PitchPerfect surrounded by women celebrating women, their strength, humor & bond; and think, "Nah, men are kings" deep inside. Way to distort his relaxed vibe. And someday, his son will know that daddy doesn't respect the power of the vagina. #sexist https://t.co/WKc4yYaNo5
— NeedsMusts (@NeedsMusts) May 5, 2018
But all jokes aside.. @djkhaled said some disgusting misogynistic shit about his wife and NO woman should listen to that horse shit. That 'KING' mentality is gross and not healthy. KNOW YOUR WORTH LADIES!
— Jeffree Star (@JeffreeStar) May 5, 2018
Don't get me wrong, the way DJ Khaled loves his son is great and all but I've always wondered if he would have worshipped his kid the same way if he had a daughter. Guess now we know the answer
— t (@laurenvelope) May 4, 2018
Some people also suggested that comments like Khaled’s can contribute to self-esteem issues. Too often in our culture, men’s sexual pleasure is valued over women’s, and that idea can be harmful for a number of reasons. Surveys have shown that when it comes to sex, there’s a significant orgasm gap between men and women, with men achieving orgasm more often than women during sex. Comments like Khaled’s could contribute to the divide by suggesting that men deserve more sexual pleasure than women do.
Assholes like DJ Khaled are the reason women have poor relationships with their vaginas. How many compartmentalize & say they 'aren't really into it anyway'?
Who wouldn't, after a life of social messaging that your meat curtains aren't worthy.
— Amanda Spriggs (@mandersoncooper) May 5, 2018
DJ Khaled is not a unique case according to 538 and your girlfriends
"91 percent of men said they climaxed during their last sexual encounter, compared with 64 percent of women." https://t.co/f9myVthKpZ
— Kate Willett (@katewillett) May 5, 2018
Other people, meanwhile, are just unhappy that Khaled’s comments are a news story in the first place.
But what if I didn’t want to spend all day imagining DJ Khaled giving head.
— Emily Nussbaum (@emilynussbaum) May 5, 2018
Once you're done reading about Roseanne anal sex-shaming, Stormy Daniels calling her a twat and DJ Khaled not eating pussy, there is a wonderful Ruth Bader Ginsberg documentary out today
— billy eichner (@billyeichner) May 5, 2018
And, of course, plenty of people had jokes to share about the news. One person cleverly brought up Janelle Monáe’s recent music video for “Pynk,” which celebrates all things woman-related, including vaginas.
::pink convertible screeches to a halt outside DJ Khaled's house::
::Janelle Monae gets out wearing her vagina pants and leans against the car with arms folded, just waiting::
— N. K. Jemisin (@nkjemisin) May 5, 2018
Even ’90s rock band Smash Mouth got in on the discussion.
A King who doesn't is no King at all. https://t.co/Jg1GAlfIjI
— Smash Mouth (@smashmouth) May 4, 2018
And Dictionary.com weighed in, suggesting that Khaled’s comments were the very definition of a double standard.
Double standard. A code containing different provisions for one group of people than for another, especially an unwritten code of sexual behavior permitting men more freedom than women.
— Dictionary.com (@Dictionarycom) May 4, 2018
It’s clear that Khaled’s comments struck a nerve with a number of people. He probably would have been better off not sharing his opinion — especially since it seems to encourage preferential treatment of men over women.
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