Grieving mom pens heartfelt post about miscarriage on her son's due date
When Emma-Kate Dobbin miscarried at 15 weeks, she was devastated.
“I started howling. Like an injured wolf. I couldn’t explain the hurt of seeing my little one lifeless,” she wrote in a recent Facebook post.
And as if the initial shock wasn’t bad enough – she said that the expectation to simply “cope” afterwards was just as upsetting.
On her son’s due date, she took to Facebook to finally open up about her miscarriage.
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“Today is the due date of my little boy, who I lost in a miscarriage. Is it strange that I still feel so devastated by this, is something wrong with me for caring so much more than most conversations allow, or am I crazy?”
“What do I do with all the photos of all the landmarks, do they just get put in a box like an awkward memory? Am I allowed to have his scans or is it now creepy?”
Although, as Kidspot reports, she had already learned the sex of her baby, decided on godparents, turned down work opportunities and moved to a house with more space, her baby was taken away from her – and she was left feeling like she wasn’t “actually” a mother.
“It felt to me, like being stripped of a school badge and forced out of a group you so desperately wanted to be in,” she wrote.
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But it wasn’t until she turned to the Internet for support that she realized it was completely acceptable and normal to want to talk about her unborn baby, Stirling.
“What’s truly crazy dawned on me as I came upon post after post from thousands of women, all in many stages of loss writing across forums and articles, and I realized how ridiculous it is I would actually judge myself for wanting to honour the child I was carrying.”
Dobbin hopes that her story will help other women deal with similar heartbreak.
“This isn’t about my loss, it’s about all of us,” she wrote. “Being allowed to see how amazing we are and how much more respect we deserve to be given to the journey of motherhood, at any stage.”
