Groom Says Brother Is 'Not Welcome' at Wedding After His Shocking Behavior at Engagement Party: 'Standing My Ground'

A groom says his brother did something unforgivable at his engagement party — and now he's so worried about a repeat performance at his upcoming wedding that he has decided not to invite him.

The 29-year-old groom detailed the situation in a recent post on Reddit, beginning by noting that he and his younger brother, 26, have long had a "strained relationship" and that his parents consider his brother "the golden child," always excusing his behavior "no matter how bad." One of those instances was when the groom celebrated his engagement party last year and his brother "got wasted" and grabbed the mic to make a not-so-nice announcement.

"[He told everyone gathered that] he didn’t 'approve' of my marriage because my fiancée is 'too controlling' (translation: she calls him out when he acts entitled)," the groom recalled. "He then proceeded to propose to his girlfriend on the spot, stealing the moment entirely. My fiancée was on the verge of tears."

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At the time, the groom was "furious" about his brother's behavior but their parents "begged" him to let it go and chalk it up to his brother being "drunk and excited" rather than malicious. "I reluctantly moved on for the sake of keeping peace," the groom noted.

But last week, the brother did something that is making the groom very nervous about his upcoming wedding.

"He calls me and says, 'Hey, I have an idea. What if I make a funny speech at your wedding? Like, just roast you a little?' I told him absolutely not and that I didn’t trust him to behave," the Reddit user wrote. "He got mad and said I was 'taking things too seriously.' "

But the groom feels he is justified in being wary, considering his brother's embarrassing stunt at his engagement party. So he has decided not to invite his brother to his nuptials.

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"I can’t risk him ruining my wedding like he did our engagement party," he insisted, adding that his parents disapprove of his decision. "They flipped out, saying I was being cruel and that 'family forgives.' Now I have relatives messaging me, telling me I should 'just give him another chance.' "

The groom ended his post by asking the Reddit community if he's "the a------" for "standing my ground" and "telling my brother he's not welcome at my wedding after what he did."

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In the comments, fellow Redditors sympathized with the groom's plight — and wondered just how many "chances" his parents expected him to give his younger brother.

"Nothing says 'family forgives' quite like hijacking someone’s engagement party, publicly declaring their relationship unworthy, and then pulling a surprise proposal stunt," one person wrote. "Honestly, how many chances does your brother need? First he gets drunk and makes your engagement party his own personal talent show and now he wants a live mic at your wedding to 'roast' you? You're not the a------."

"You are not out of line AT ALL. HE is," someone else chimed in. "He's 26. He's outgrown being shown any leniency or 'given a second chance' with such arrogant, boorish behavior."

Another commenter suggested that if the groom really felt compelled to cave and invite his brother to the wedding for the sake of keeping the family peace, he could make arrangements to help prevent any undesirable behavior.

"If you do decide to give him another chance, tell your parents they are on the hook to make sure your brother doesn't pull a stunt. Have a backup plan in case your brother does attend and does set a foot wrong. Tell him clearly that if he goes through with his roast, you will have him escorted out by your best man/men," they wrote.

"You're not overreacting," the same commenter added. "It's your wedding day and you pay a lot of money for it and your brother should be mature enough to just keep a decent tongue in his mouth for the sake of family."

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