My life in sex: the woman who found yoga helped with orgasms

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I am a heterosexual woman of nearly 30, who had never had an orgasm with a partner until recently. I could achieve one alone, but thought I was psychologically unable to do so with another person. I was resigned to faking it.

A few months ago, I took up daily yoga to cope with the change of pace during lockdown. Soon I was connecting with my body in a way I’d not experienced before. I enjoyed experimenting with my breath. I became aware of every muscle, and began to understand the interplay between these two elements: breath and muscles.

One night, I surprised myself by having an orgasm during sex with my partner. My daily yoga proved to be just what I needed to step outside my head and allow myself to trust the moment.

Since then, I feel as if I have unlocked something deep within myself. I now have an orgasm every time we have sex. I also have a renewed interest in intimacy, sex and pleasure. I assumed these things were not on the cards for me. So if you’re struggling to climax, why not try yoga, too.

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