Man worried Asian fiancée's genes will affect his son's 'package'
Getting engaged should be a blissful time for a couple but one woman has discovered a “not-so-small” problem.
She turned to Slate Magazine’s “Dear Prudence,” a weekly column where writer Mallory Ortberg dishes out sharp, sassy advice. In her letter, the anonymous Asian woman shares how she recently learnt the true reason why her fiancé did not want to have a son.
“I have recently become engaged to my longtime boyfriend. Whenever the topic of children came up, he would insist he only wanted girls because his siblings were all brothers so another male in the family would be boring,” she writes.
She goes on to share that her fiancé forwarded her an email from his brother and best man with information pertaining to their wedding planning. The email, however, also contained an earlier thread that revealed her finance’s real reason for not wanting sons — he worries her “Asian genes” would mean his son would have a “small package.”
“My brother was bullied by jocks using this idiotic stereotype in high school so I was incredibly angered, but I haven’t said anything about what I read yet,” she writes before asking Prudence for advice on how she should confront her husband-to-be.
Prudence tackles the potential phallic problem head on by saying, “I can understand why you have no idea how to speak to him about it, because finding out your almost-husband is a racist who’s bizarrely fixated on the size of his hypothetical son’s dick has got to be jarring and shocking for you (not to mention the fact that he’s dumb enough to forward you an email about it).
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“I imagine that, were you to bring this up to him, he will likely sputter and try to explain why you’re overreacting, or that what he said wasn’t that bad, or that he’s not ‘really like that.’ He is really like that. That’s why he said it.”
She advises the woman to accept this revelation of her finance’s character and suggests she calls off the engagement.
“He has given you a valuable insight into his character, how he sees the world, how he assigns value to people based on race, and how he sees any future children the two of you might have together. If what you saw doesn’t seem like something you want for yourself or for any children you may someday have, I think you should consider yourself lucky you got to see this before you married him, and call it off.”
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