A Laguna Niguel, Calif. mom who was sick and tired of hearing her daughter complain about bullies at school decided to confront the entire class Tuesday morning, unannounced, and threaten retaliation on anyone who crosses the girl.
“If you all bully my daughter, if you look at her the wrong way, if you breathe the wrong way, send your mom to me,” said mom Christian Tinsley in a phone video recorded by a student during second period at Niguel Hills Middle School and shared with CBS2. “Sisters, aunts, anybody over 18. I’ll f*** them all up. Do you understand me?”
“Y’all don’t know me,” Tinsley’s rant continued. “You think y’all bullies? I’m a big bully, okay? Let that be known, and understand that. Leave my daughter alone, and I mean that.”
Tinsley told CBS2 that her daughter had been telling her for months that bullies at the school were harassing her repeatedly, but when school authorities reprimanded the students, the bullying — both in person and on social media — just got worse.
The girl told Tinsley she was receiving racist, sexist and derogatory comments, and that one of the students also sexually harassed her. The boy was later suspended following an investigation into the incident.
While Tinsley stood in front of the class, the teacher contacted the front office for help. The assistant principal at Niguel Hills then intervened and escorted the mom out of the school. She was later forbidden by the Capistrano Unified School District from returning to the school.
The mom told CBS2 she could have handled the situation differently, but she was at her wit’s end that morning after her daughter started crying and refused to go to school.
“Then she made a comment to me that if she wasn’t as strong as she was, she would have killed herself,” Tinsley said. “And so that’s when Mama Bear mode went into effect.”
She said she did address the situation with school officials first, and they told her not to address students or parents herself. But the frustrated mom felt the school wasn’t doing enough to protect her daughter from bullies, so she decided to defend the girl. It’s not known how she made it past the required sign-in process for on-campus visitors.
CBS LA reported that Tinsley also left tickets behind when she left the school. The tickets read, “Free a**-kicking. Must be 18 or older to redeem.”
“I think that sometimes when you’ve done everything you can do the way you’re supposed to do it, and it hasn’t been resolved, then sometimes as a parent … you have to decide if you’re going to go a step further and deal with any consequences,” Tinsley said.
The Orange County Sheriff’s Department is conducting its own investigation into the bullying, Principal Tim Reece told reporters.
Tinsley said she had an inkling she’d be banned for taking matters into her own hands.
“I was prepared for that,” she said, “because my daughter is number one.”
She said she was determined that her daughter would not become a statistic.
“Kids are committing suicide every day because they’re getting bullied,” she told ABC 7. “I don’t want that for my daughter. So what do I do when my daughter says she’s afraid to go to school?”
Reece sent an email to members of the community expressing concern about the incident, confirming that he would visit the classroom on Wednesday, according to ABC 7.
“When a parent or student shares concerns about bullying or harassment with administration, teachers or staff, they are immediately investigated at our school site and both students and their parents are contacted,” he said.
In the meantime, Tinsley said she would still like to address the bullies’ parents directly, too, and point out the gravity of the situation.
“[Bullies] can really affect other people and make this a hostile learning environment,” the mom said. “Everyone deserves to be able to come to school every day and feel safe.”
At least one dad at the school agrees.
“I’m sure she talked to people and nobody took care of business,” said one dad to CBS2. “And a mother or a father is going to do what they feel they need to do to protect their child.”
Another parent, identified as Shirley, disagrees with the way Tinsley went about things.
“I definitely feel for the parents, but I don’t believe that she went about it the right way,” said Shirley. “It threatens the school, it threatened the other kids.”
Yahoo Lifestyle has reached out to the Capistrano Unified School District for further comment.
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