This Person Is Deciding Whether They Should Sleep With Their Dead Friend's Ex, And The Internet Is Completely Split On It
Earlier this month, a man went viral on the r/moraldilemmas subreddit after he asked if it okay to sleep with his dead friend's ex.
User SKrusaa wrote in his post, "So this girl really wants us to hookup, but I am conflicted because she used to be with a good friend of mine before he died a few years ago. Is it wrong of me if I did it?"
As you can probably imagine, commenters did not hold back in sharing their thoughts in the replies, and they were pretty divided.
On one hand, some people advised against it. User psychocopter commented, "If it's just a hookup then TBH it's not worth it. Long term, you'll either look back and not feel weird about it, or you'll feel weird and somewhat guilty about the hookup."
Another user who goes by playuglie chimed in and said it would be morally wrong. "I may be in the minority here but there is such thing as a bro code," they commented. "I would never, to do so would be a direct betrayal to my friend and his memory. If I was dead and my best friend was sleeping with my ex girlfriend/wife, I’d be rolling over in my grave. There’s just some things you don’t do."
Another Redditor, elchico14, said "I can't imagine dating a friend's ex after they've passed away. Anyone who would do so I would cut off immediately. Acquaintances are a different story. I'm hoping people are referring to that and not real friendships. Otherwise, that's pretty messed up."
At the same time, some commenters took no issue with the situation. User MiddleAgedGamer1696 said, "It's not like he just died. It's been years, go for it."
Some people even drew from their personal experiences. One woman, user BBA101269, shared her own situation and how she feels about OP's.
"My two cents (short version): I have an ex that I was very in love with. We broke up at some point, and he moved to another state. A few months later, he was killed in an accident. That's was in 2008," the reply reads. "Fast forward to now. I'm married to his older brother. We have a wonderful marriage. Granted, his brother and I had broken up before he was killed...and he and I were close friends for years before getting married. There are differences between my scenario and yours. I don't think you're wronging your deceased friend, though."
Similarly, user alexwh68, chimed in with his own story. "My wife and I have a pact. We have been married for over 20 years, and both of us are in our 50s. One of us is going to die first, leaving the other behind (unless there is a car accident or something like that where we both die at the same time)," he commented. "Our pact is this: for at least one year, we will mourn the loss of the other; after that year is up, go and make yourself happy with someone else if the opportunity arises. A friend would want you both to be happy."
And finally, one person laid down the conditions that would have to be met in order to go through with the deed. "If they were together when he passed, go for it. He would want both you and her to be happy. If they had broken up before he died, you need to know if the break was amicable or not. If they were rosy when he died it might be fine. If they had no contact it would not be fine," user Gulvfisk wrote.
Now, I'm curious about what you think. Should this guy sleep with his dead friend's ex? Why or why not? Let us know in the comments.
