A proposal is meant to be a sweet moment for two people to enjoy and reminisce over for the rest of their lives — but what if it happens in the middle of someone else’s wedding ceremony? In a candid letter written to Mallory Ortberg (Dear Prudence), one bride recounts how her husband’s best man/officiant upstaged her wedding with a surprise proposal — which left the crowd so enamoured that the couple couldn’t even hear each other’s vows.
“We’ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love,” the woman wrote. “The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy, our families were overjoyed. My mom may have used the phrase hallelujah a few dozen times. The entire atmosphere felt moving.”
So moving, that mid-ceremony, the groom’s best friend “John,” decided to stop and propose to his longtime girlfriend “Jane” — and reveal her pregnancy.
“I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her,” the bride added, noting that the videographer frequently cut to Jane during the ceremony.
John, perhaps finally recognizing his role as wedding officiant, apologized for getting “caught up in the moment,” but then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future during the wedding toast, without mentioning the bride and groom.
“John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor,” the bride stated, noting how how John and Jane became the focus during the reception.
Social media reaction hasn’t been too kind to John and Jane:
I’d go to their wedding and be $40000 worth of petty. Giving caffeinated candy to the kids, pushing the wedding cake off the table…
— Amanda WallerPMP (@Floedezzy) June 2, 2017
Dude did this while OFFICIATING their wedding. I’d cancel their honeymoon reservations while they were mid-flight.
— Amanda WallerPMP (@Floedezzy) June 3, 2017
Be sure to wear all white to J&J’s wedding then announce a pregnancy. Oh and pass out baby shower cards full of pictures of you two ????????
— Miss Pyro (@XBijou_BijouX) June 4, 2017
As for the bride and groom, it’s been weeks and the bride is still understandably “seething” while her husband hasn’t spoken to John since the incident.
“Our mutual friends think what he did was rude but that my husband should just get over it,” she wrote. “My husband has joked that he’ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $40,000 check for ‘their half of the wedding.'”
Prudence suggested that since John has been best friend’s with the husband for a long time, he should tell John how upsetting his behaviour was during the wedding (and if he didn’t know, he likely does by now!)
What do you think, is this couple angry over nothing — or should “John” apologize?