A Utah mom is going viral after penning a heartbreaking Facebook post encouraging people to pay attention and help women struggling with postpartum depression.
Krysti Marie Motter of Eagle Mountain, Utah took to social media to reveal how her own experience with postpartum depression completely altered her perspective towards mothers who take their own lives.
“I get it. I finally get it,” Motter wrote. “You see moms committing suicide. And I couldn’t understand it. How do you leave your kids behind like that? Postpartum depression is what they call it. You don’t feel like the world would be better off without you, you feel like you’d be better off without this world.”
According to recent studies, approximately 21.9 per cent of all new mothers experience postpartum depression, with suicide being the second leading cause of maternal death. Despite the alarming statistics, postpartum depression is still underreported, with many women still afraid of the stigma associated with mental illness, and the fear that they may deemed unfit to care for their children.
Although many women feel as though they’re hiding their depression, Motter said if you look carefully, there are always warning signs which many people ignore until it’s too late.
“Then everybody posts, ‘Oh I never knew. She didn’t say anything. She seemed OK.’ She told you, and it seemed small to you, you didn’t get it,” she wrote.
Motter points out that many women with postpartum depression become overwhelmed with the pressures to live up to expectations and feel like they’re “drowning.”
“She lost herself taking care of others. She’s told you, ‘I can’t today. I have too much to do.'” she continued. “Don’t offer to help with her kids because then the guilt sets in. She won’t let you take them because she feels like she’s already not spending enough time with them. I see it. I see you. I understand you.”
The post has been shared more than 74,500 times since it was published, with Motter being applauded for encouraging people to recognize when something seems wrong, and offer to help in little ways, or any way they can.
“Stop by and visit, let her take a shower, help her in some way so she feels like she’s not so behind. Like she’s not alone… Stop saying you didn’t know. Because she told you.”