WHERE ARE THEY NOW: All the winning 'Bachelorette' couples

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Dotun Olubeko and Charity Lawson in 2023.Craig Sjodin/ABC
  • ABC's "The Bachelorette" has been on TV since 2003.

  • After 20 seasons, a majority of the winning couples are no longer together.

  • But there are a select few pairs that have lasted — here's where all the winning couples are today.

It's hard to believe, but "The Bachelorette" has been on the air since 2003.

But of the couples who've gotten engaged over the course of the show's 20 seasons and counting, the majority have since gone their separate ways.

Here's where all of the winning couples featured on "The Bachelorette" are today.

Anjelica Oswald contributed to a previous version of this story. 

Season 1: Trista Rehn and Ryan Sutter

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Ryan Sutter and Trista Rehn in 2003, left, and right, in 2023.Gregory Pace/FilmMagic; John Parra/Getty Images for Sandals Resorts

Rehn was the first "Bachelorette" ever, and a runner-up on "The Bachelor." She chose firefighter Ryan Sutter as her final pick on season one of "The Bachelorette."

Rehn and Sutter are still together and perhaps the most successful of any "Bachelor" or "Bachelorette" couples in history. The pair got married in an ABC special broadcast on December 6, 2003. They now have two children.

Season 2: Meredith Phillips and Ian McKee

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Meredith Phillips and Ian McKee.Peter Kramer/Getty Images

Makeup artist and former catalog model Meredith Phillips and equities researcher Ian McKee didn't last too long. They broke up one year after the finale aired.

In the years after their breakup, Phillips, an outspoken recovering alcoholic, came out with her very own cookbook, "The Date Night Cookbook."

Phillips also spoke out in 2018 about being "kind of accosted" by a female masseuse during her time filming "The Bachelorette," according to People. Representatives for ABC didn't immediately respond to Insider's request for comment on Phillips' claim.

McKee, for his part, is now the founder and CEO of Torch Works Inc. Per his LinkedIn profile, the company "aims to bring passion, purpose and personal growth to more than half the world population, by helping people connect around extra-curricular activities more efficiently."

Season 3: Jen Schefft and Jerry Ferris

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Jerry Ferris and Jen Schefft.Donna Svennevik/ABC

Chicago-native Jen Schefft and art gallery director Jerry Ferris (technically) broke up on season three's "After the Final Rose" special.

Schefft turned down Ferris' proposal on the finale, saying that she wanted them to get to know each other better and keep dating.

Schefft later married a trader named Joe Waterman in 2009. Together they have two daughters, Mae and Charlotte. According to her bio on X (formerly known as Twitter), Schefft is a PR coordinator, and she and her family live in the suburbs of Cleveland. She also hosts a podcast called "From the Bachelor to the Burbs."

Ferris now works for a title and escrow provider in California real estate, and is raising his son with his wife Natasha Goss, whom he married in 2011.

You might have also seen him on TV shows like "CSI: New York" and "Switched at Birth."

Season 4: Deanna Pappas and Jesse Csincsak

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Jesse Csincsak and DeAnna Pappas.Jeff Gross/Getty Images

Realtor DeAnna Pappas and snowboarder Jesse Csincsak broke up four months after the finale aired.

According to Csincsak, Pappas told him: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

Pappas later married Stephen Stagliano, the twin brother of another "Bachelorette" cast member, Michael Stagliano. They have two children together, but announced their separation in January 2023.

Csincsak also married someone from the "Bachelor" alumni family, Ann Lueders, after they met on a reunion show. They now have three children together.

Season 5: Jillian Harris and Ed Swiderski

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Jillian Harris and Ed Swiderski.Bryan Bedder/Getty Images

Interior designer Jillian Harris and Ed Swiderski broke up one year after the finale aired.

"I love him and I'm really sad, but I have to look out for me," Harris told Us Weekly.

Harris is now a lifestyle blogger with over one million followers on Instagram. She married husband Justin Pasutto, and together they have a son named Leo, and welcomed a daughter named Annie in 2018.

Swiderski now works as a global account director at SalesForce. He married Chicago TV anchor Natalie Bomke in 2015, and they have a daughter together.



Season 6: Ali Fedotowsky and Roberto Martinez

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Ali Fedotowsky and Roberto Martinez.Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images

Advertising manager Ali Fedotowsky and insurance agent Roberto Martinez broke up a little over a year after the season six finale aired.

"We definitely had been having problems," Fedotowsky told People at the time. "But I had always believed that we could work it out."

Fedotowsky is now married to radio and TV host Kevin Manno. The couple welcomed their first daughter together, Molly, in 2015. Fedotowsky gave birth to their second child, son Riley, in May 2018.

Not much is known about Martinez's subsequent endeavors, except that he currently appears to be working for State Farm Insurance in San Diego. An account on X (formerly known as Twitter) that seemingly belongs to Martinez mostly features posts about baseball and Catholicism.

Season 7: Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum

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Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum.D Dipasupil/Getty Images

Dance instructor Ashley Hebert and construction manager J.P. Rosenbaum from season seven were married for eight years.

They got engaged on the finale in 2011 and were married in a televised ceremony on ABC in 2012. And in 2018, they renewed their vows in Aruba.

The couple are parents to two children — son Fordham Rhys, born in 2014, and daughter Essex "Essie" Reese, born in 2016. However, in 2020, they announced that they were separating due to "differences" in their relationship.

Hebert later spoke about the hate she got from men on social media after the divorce, calling the reactions "mind-blowing."

Season 8: Emily Maynard and Jef Holm

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Emily Maynard and Jef Holm.Mike Lawrie/Getty Images

"Bachelor" winner and single mother Emily Maynard and entrepreneur Jef Holm from season eight broke up in October 2012 after nasty cheating allegations. Future "Bachelor" Arie Luyendyk Jr. was the runner-up during that season.

Maynard is now married to automotive management consultant Tyler Johnson. The couple is raising six children together, including Maynard's daughter from a previous marriage. Maynard gave birth to their most recent addition, son Jones, in December 2022.

Holm went on to become a co-founder of the charity People Water. He was last romantically linked to "Too Hot to Handle" star Francesca Farago in 2020, although that clearly didn't last long since Francesca is now engaged to someone else.

Season 9: Desiree Hartsock and Chris Siegfried

Chris Siegfried and Desiree Hartsock in 2013, left; right, in 2018.
Chris Siegfried and Desiree Hartsock in 2013, left; right, in 2018.Francisco Roman/Walt Disney Television via Getty Images; Earl Gibson III/Getty Images for WE tv

Bridal stylist Desiree Hartsock and banker Chris Siegfried, who appeared on season nine, are still married. After getting engaged on the finale in 2013, the two were married in 2015.

Hartsock and Siegfried are now parents. They welcomed son Asher Wrigley in October 2016 and welcomed another son named Zander in January 2019. Hartsock has also written two books, has her own line of bridal gowns, and hosts a Christian podcast. Siegfried works as a mortgage loan originator, according to his website.

Season 10: Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray

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Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray.Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images

Assistant District Attorney Andi Dorfman and former pro baseball player Josh Murray broke up in 2015, five months after the season 10 finale.

"I don't generally think of myself as a weak person, but it rocked me," Dorfman later told ABC News' "Nightline" of the breakup. "It was heartbreak."

Dorfman is now the author of two books, one a tell-all book about her time on the reality show titled "It's Not Okay." She also founded an online community for marathon runners called Andorfins. And in May 2023, Dorfman tied the knot with fiancé Blaine Hart during a romantic ceremony in Italy.

Murray, for his part, wooed former "Bachelor" contestant Amanda Stanton on "Bachelor in Paradise." The pair later had an intense breakup after getting engaged on the show.

Season 11: Kaitlyn Bristowe and Shawn Booth

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Kaitlyn Bristowe and Shawn Booth.Tommaso Boddi/Getty Images

Dance teacher Kaitlyn Bristowe and trainer Shawn Booth broke up in 2018 after three years together. They got engaged in the May 2015-filmed finale.

Bristowe later went on to date Jason Tartick, who competed on season 14 of "The Bachelorette." Bristowe told Cosmopolitan that she watched Tartick on Becca Kufrin's season and "was really actually rooting for him" to star on "The Bachelor."

Bristowe also hosts a podcast called "Off the Vine" , which is where she met Tartick. The couple got engaged in May 2021 after dating for two years, but announced in August 2023 that they were ending their engagement.

Booth has continued to focus on fitness, and currently runs a gym in Nashville. He also hosts a podcast, called "In the Booth with Shawn Booth," and is expecting his first child with Dre Joseph.

Season 12: JoJo Fletcher and Jordan Rodgers

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JoJo Fletcher and Jordan Rodgers in 2016, left; right, in 2023.Rick Rowell/Disney General Entertainment Content via Getty Images; Patrick Ecclesine/USA Network via Getty Images

Real estate developer JoJo Fletcher and former pro football player Jordan Rodgers from season 12 are still together. They got engaged on the 2016 "Bachelorette" finale, and officially tied the knot in California in 2022.

The couple currently host the reality dating show "The Big D" on USA, which follows six divorced couples as they meet up in a tropical location and try to form romantic connections with other divorcées.

Season 13: Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo

Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo in 2017, left; right, in 2022.
Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo in 2017, left; right, in 2022.Randy Holmes/Disney General Entertainment Content via Getty Images; Emma McIntyre/Getty Images for Fanatics

Dallas attorney Rachel Lindsay said yes to a proposal from chiropractor Bryan Abasolo, a 37-year-old from Miami, on season 13. Lindsay also made history as the show's first black "Bachelorette."

The pair officially tied the knot in Mexico in 2019, but continued to live apart (Lindsay was working in Los Angeles, while Abasolo had a chiropractor's office in Miami) until 2021, when they both settled in Los Angeles.

Lindsay was later inadvertently involved in a controversy surrounding former "Bachelor" and "Bachelorette" host Chris Harrison, after he defended a contestant (Rachael Kirkconnell, who ended up winning Matt James' season of "The Bachelor") accused of racially-insensitive behavior during a February 2021 interview with Lindsay, who was working as an "Extra" correspondent at the time.

The attorney now co-hosts a podcast, "Higher Learning," with Van Lathan, and released her novel "Real Love" (featuring a "Bachelor"-type dating show) in March 2023.

Abasolo now runs a chronic pain relief center in Los Angeles.

Season 14: Becca Kufrin and Garrett Yrigoyen

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Becca Kufrin and Garrett Yrigoyen on "The Bachelorette."ABC

On season 14, Becca Kufrin chose Garrett Yrigoyen after Arie Luyendyk Jr. broke her heart on his season of "The Bachelor." Luyendyk Jr. had picked her initially, but then dumped her for his runner-up.

Kufrin and Yrigoyen were engaged for more than two years before they split in September 2020.

As Insider's Anneta Konstantinides reported, Yrigoyen and Kufrin's relationship got off to a tricky start. In May 2018, shortly after Kufrin's season of "The Bachelorette" premiered, Yrigoyen's questionable social media behavior — including liking Instagram posts mocking transgender people, immigrant children, and a school shooting victim — came to light.

Yrigoyen later apologized on the "After the Final Rose" special for Kufrin's season. However, his social media activity put him back in the spotlight in June of 2020, as Black Lives Matter protests gained traction across the US and more and more white Americans began to consider the consequences of institutional racism. Yrigoyen, however, posted in support of police at that time. In September of that year, the couple broke off their engagement.

Kufrin later told Konstantinides in January 2021 that she and Yrigoyen had lived in "this white privilege bubble," and it wasn't until the pandemic and murder of George Floyd that the couple "started really having different types of conversations."

Kufrin is now engaged to Thomas Jacobs, whom she met while appearing on season 7 of "Bachelor in Paradise." The two announced that they're expecting their first child, a boy, who's due in September 2023. Kufrin also founded the wine company Bourdon. and had a stint hosting the "Bachelor"-focused podcast "Bachelor Happy Hour."

Yrigoyen, for his part, got engaged in to yoga instructor Alex Farrar in 2022.

Season 15: Hannah Brown and Jed Wyatt

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Jed Wyatt and Hannah Brown on "The Bachelorette."ABC

Former pageant queen Hannah Brown and musician Jed Wyatt got engaged on the finale of season 15 of "The Bachelorette," after Brown and runner-up Tyler Cameron had an emotional breakup.

However, on the July 2019 "Bachelorette" finale, Brown revealed that she learned shortly after her engagement to Wyatt in Greece that he'd had a girlfriend while on the show — and that it was more serious than he first admitted. Wyatt tried to downplay the relationship, but Brown revealed on the "After the Final Rose" portion of the finale that she and Wyatt had broken off their engagement. She also asked runner-up Cameron on a date during the "AFR" portion, but their relationship ultimately fizzled out.

Brown began dating Adam Woolard in 2021, and Woolard proposed to her in August 2023. In the years since her stint as the Bachelorette, she also released a juicy tell-all, and launched a podcast called Better Tomorrow, which she also hosts.

Wyatt is now engaged to Ellen Decker, whom he began dating in 2019.



Season 16: Clare Crawley and Dale Moss, and Tayshia Adams and Zac Clark

A side-by-side image of Dale Moss and Clare Crawley, and Tayshia Adams and Zac Clark on "The Bachelorette."
Dale Moss and Clare Crawley; Tayshia Adams and Zac Clark.ABC

Clare Crawley and Dale Moss got engaged after only a few weeks of dating on season 16 of "The Bachelorette," causing Crawley to depart the show earlier than planned, and Tayshia Adams to step in as her replacement.

Crawley and Moss broke off their engagement in January 2021 after only a few months of being together. They later got back together, but broke up for good in September 2021.

Crawley has since remarried, tying the knot with Mascot Sports CEO Ryan Dawkins in February 2023 after a brief engagement. The couple are now expecting their first child via surrogate together. According to her Instagram bio, Crawley is the founder of body care company Soil Rituals, and co-owns a hair salon in Sacramento.

Moss is now in a relationship with HGTV's "Home in a Heartbeat" host Galey Alix.

Tayshia Adams accepted a proposal from Zac Clark on the season 16 finale of "The Bachelorette." However, the couple ended their engagement in November 2021.

Since the breakup, Adams served as co-host for "Click Bait" and "Bachelor Happy Hour," both "Bachelor"-related podcasts, but stepped down from hosting duties in January 2022. In 2023, she was romantically linked to fellow reality TV star Luke Gulbranson.

Clark now works for an addiction recovery center based in New York.


Season 17: Katie Thurston and Blake Moynes

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Moynes and Thurston in 2021.Craig Sjodin/ABC

Katie Thurston accepted Blake Moynes' proposal on the season 17 finale of "The Bachelorette," following a nasty breakup with runner-up Greg Grippo. However, Thurston and Moynes split up in October 2021.

Thurston later went on to date John Hersey, who also competed on her season of "The Bachelorette," but the two broke up after less than a year together. She's now slated to appear on the upcoming season of "Bachelor in Paradise," where she'll have the chance to speak with Moynes for the first time since their breakup. Thurston will also star on season 3 of "FBoy Island." 

Moynes was hospitalized during a trip to South Africa in early 2023, but ultimately recovered. As mentioned, he'll also appear on season 9 of "Bachelor in Paradise."

Season 18: Michelle Young and Nayte Olukoya

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Michelle and Nayte.Craig Sjodin/ABC

School teacher Michelle Young and Nayte Olukoya became engaged on the season 18 finale of the dating show. In June 2022, however, the pair revealed that they were going their separate ways.

Young has kept a low profile since her split with Olukoya, and mostly just shares travel updates and inspirational messages on her Instagram page. Olukoya has also largely stayed out of the spotlight since the breakup.

In February 2023, Young got candid about her breakup with Olukoya on an episode of the "Almost Famous" podcast.

"I wanted the relationship to work. I was willing to put in work for the relationship. And I had the person take off," Young said, according to Us Weekly.

Season 19: Gabby Windey and Erich Schwer, and Rachel Recchia and Tino Franco

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Erich Schwer and Gabby Windey, and Rachel Recchia and Tino Franco on season 19 of "The Bachelorette."ABC

Gabby Windey accepted a proposal from Erich Schwer on the September 2022 finale of "The Bachelorette" season 19. However, by November 2022, the couple had split up.

Windey announced on "The View" in August 2023 that she was in a committed relationship with a woman — writer and comedian Robby Hoffman. The former "Bachelorette" star shared a series of photos of her and Hoffman to her Instagram account shortly thereafter, captioning the heartwarming photos: "Told you I'm a girls girl!"

Schwer has been romantically linked to psychology student Elizabeth Turner since February 2023.

Rachel Recchia and her finalist, Tino Franco, also got engaged at the end of season 19. But much like Schwer and Windey, their romance was also short-lived: During the live portion of the finale, Recchia revealed that she and Franco had ended their engagement after Franco admitted to cheating on her.

Recchia will get another chance at love, however, when she appears on the upcoming season of "Bachelor in Paradise." Fellow former Bachelorettes Katie Thurston, Hannah Brown, and Charity Lawson are also set to make appearances on the new season, although the latter two are likely just there to hand out date cards since they appear to be happily engaged.


Season 20: Charity Lawson and Dotun Olubeko

Charity Lawson and Dotun Olubeko on the season 20 finale of "The Bachelorette."Christopher Willard/ABC/Getty Images

Family therapist Charity Lawson and Dotun Olubeko got engaged at the end of season 20 of "The Bachelorette." In an interview with Insider in August 2023, the two gushed about their upcoming nuptials and revealed they were potentially planning two wedding ceremonies. Based on social media activity from late August and early September 2023, the two still appear to be happily engaged.

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