18 People Who Had It Up To HERE And Ended Toxic Relationships Once And For All
Recently a Reddit user asked the community, "What made you cut someone 100% out of your life?"
It's really difficult to remove someone from your life who you were once close to. But sometimes, it's totally necessary because, at the end of the day, you come first.
So, here are some extremely valid reasons why people cut folks out of their lives completely:
Note: Some submissions include topics of child abuse and suicide. Please proceed with caution.
1."I recently cut off a couple of 'so-called friends' because they began disrespecting me and ghosting me when I was going through a hard time. Nooo thank you — you don't get to do that to me and have the title of being my 'friend.'"
2."We were driving in her car, and I realized she was super drunk. When I politely asked her to slow down she snapped at me and started driving FASTER (around 120 mph) and almost got us into a car accident. I cut her off, and months later, I heard she ended up totaling her car. Play with your life on your own time, not mine."
3."My ex-wife stole money from our family account to give to her mother and lied about it — twice. The bounced check charges cost me nearly $1,000 after everything was said and done. Then, a few years later, she was drunk at a party and bragged about how she deceived me and how I didn't know. Sadly, it took a long time for me to process, but I can trace the end of everything I felt for her to that moment."
4."My father made a joke about my attempted suicide not even six months after it happened. I’m a 33-year-old man with kids of my own. I couldn’t believe what he said — I hung up the phone, blocked him, and haven’t looked back since."
5."She neglected my emotions and thought hers were the only emotions that mattered. Whenever a conflicting conversation arose due to her actions of hurting others or doing something wrong, she decided to 'play the victim' and turn the conversation around so that you were the problem for having an issue while she never took responsibility for anything."
"She performed selfish acts without thinking of others' feelings or thoughts. She'd gaslight you into thinking you were the problem if she ever did you wrong.
It was like she was a martyr without the whole 'woe is me' act. She'd say, 'Since you did me wrong, I’m going to hurt those you care about and make you feel like it’s your fault for making me do this.'"
6."I just recently cut out a friend [after being disrespected over a minor disagreement]. I can't believe I let them get away with it for years. Learning to set boundaries is hard."
7."I was tired of never being heard and of being an unpaid therapist."
8."When my friends continuously tried to date me and asked me for sex/to make a move on me (after I said no multiple times). This is with people I'm simply trying to be friends with. And I let them know that I just want to be friends. After a while, it got frustrating and uncomfortable. I no longer feel like their friend since they didn't respect my boundaries."
9."There'd been a lot of other issues leading up to this, but the final straw was that she tried to proselytize me when she knew I wasn't interested in joining her religion. She ended up stalking me for almost six years afterward."
10."I asked my dad to come visit since he hadn't seen his grandson in a year and it was getting to the point where my kid was learning how to speak and such. My mother, who lived several states away, had come to visit three times during this period. My dad told me he was very busy, but he'd be glad to entertain us if we came to his house. I sighed, and at that moment, my entire childhood came into sharp focus. Every single thing I did with him I always had to initiate — otherwise he ignored me."
"He would never put in more than the minimum required effort to be a parent. I realized he was still doing the same thing, and it was likely my child would experience the grandpa that I had as a dad.
Still, I gave him a choice. I said, 'If you want to be part of your grandson's life and our lives, then you need to come see us and not continue to make us do all the work to have a relationship with you. If you're not interested in doing that, you should never call me again.'"
It's been 10 years since his number popped up on my phone. Although, nine years ago, I got a message from an unknown number, so it went straight to voicemail. It was his new wife talking about how they did all this shit to make it so they had more 'free time' to come visit, but in the message there were all of these things trying to make me feel guilty for the conversation that I'd had with my dad a year before that.
I replied months later since it took a long time before I saw that voicemail. I said in a text message, 'If he wants a relationship, he can reach out. This is for him to fix, not you.' She replied, 'I'll let him know.'
So, yeah...I don't feel bad about cutting him out."
11."When my uncle didn't attend my same-sex wedding, despite attending both of my siblings' weddings."
12."I realized that my childhood wasn’t 'normal.' I learned I experienced a lot of trauma growing up. I grew up believing everyone feels trauma at some point in their lives. But I realized my trauma was an everyday experience. I finally brought it up with my mom, and she dismissed it, just like I knew she would. It’s been over a year since I’ve talked to her, and I don’t have any plans to talk to her in 2025. I actually don’t plan on talking to anyone in my family anymore because they allowed that trauma to happen."
13."I found out they were telling people behind my back about my borderline personality disorder diagnosis, and using it to paint me as a 'horrible' and 'manipulative' person. They got cut out real fucking quick."
14."My dad pretended to love me until I put the down payment on his house for him. My name isn't on any of the paperwork, so I can't prove anything. I fully cut him out of my life when his wife wouldn't stop saying that my autism was the reason why I was 'stupid' and 'didn't know anything,' among other insults that were meant to sound like 'I didn't know better.' I did, and they're not in my life because of it."
15."I've been a musician since the fifth grade, and one of the instruments I learned how to play was guitar. My best friend in high school was always jealous that I could play guitar, and he couldn't. So, I offered to teach him a few simple riffs and some stuff to help him get better. I guess he decided that actually practicing to get better was too much work and just becoming increasingly jealous was the better option. So one day, he basically shat all over my music just out of the blue. Later, he admitted he did it because he was jealous and apologized, but continued being incredibly passive-aggressive about it. I eventually got sick of always being put down by someone I considered my best friend and cut him out of my life."
16."They laughed and made a joke about the pain they caused me."
17."He threatened to kill himself. He wrote a suicide letter 'blaming' me for it. And then he had the audacity to claim that he was only joking after he legit had me panicking."
18.And finally, "I was constantly there for this specific person. I helped them move, clean their house, and organize their space. Basically, I was just being a great friend. But when my dad was admitted to the hospital and passed away after four months, I didn't hear from this person at all (and they knew what I was going through). When my dad passed away, I posted about it on social media, and all I got was the 'my condolences' text message from my friend. Good riddance!"
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
