Bride Disinvites Her Best Friend's Partner from Wedding at Last Minute: 'I'm Honestly Shocked'

A woman says she's feeling "upset and hurt" after her best friend disinvited her partner from her wedding at the last minute.

The woman detailed the drama in a post on Reddit's "Bridezillas" forum, recounting how the bride-to-be — with whom she has been friends for more than 15 years — just casually informed her that her partner was cut from the guest list just weeks ahead of the ceremony.

The OP (original poster), who is part of the bridal party, recalled that everything had seemed fine between the two friends, including when they met up for lunch a couple weeks ago and discussed some wedding arrangements.

"My friend showed me pictures of an Airbnb that the bridal party/groomsmen can stay in after the reception, mentioning specifically there would be a room for myself and my partner," the woman wrote in her post. "She asked if we would put money towards it, and of course I agreed."

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However, things took a sharp turn when the two women recently got together again at a gathering to celebrate the OP's 30th birthday. "I made a passing comment about my partner and I [being] excited to come to the wedding. She said, 'Oh didn’t I tell you? Yeah, he’s not invited anymore,' " the OP recalled.

In the moment, the person was "shocked" but wanted to enjoy her birthday so she "dropped the subject instantly." But the next day, the pair got into an argument when the OP explained to her best friend that she didn't understand her "sudden change of mind."

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During the conversation, the OP also brought up the fact that she has "made concessions" for the bride-to-be's own partner to attend events despite "very openly stating I don't like him." She claimed that her friend's fiancé has cheated on her several times in the past, including when her mother was in the hospital dying of brain cancer.

"I’ve previously said I didn’t want him at events like my birthday, but when she pleaded with me, I conceded and let him come," the OP noted.

Since the two women's argument, the OP wrote that "my best friend has said 'you didn’t want my partner coming to events, so I want you to respect that I’m not inviting your partner [to the wedding] and if you have an issue with it moving forward I suggest you come as a guest.' "

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"I'm honestly shocked," the OP wrote of her reaction to the whole situation. "I’m feeling really down and I’m seriously considering not going [to the wedding]. Not just for this reason, but also due to the fact she’s been so self-involved the past year. Every conversation has been about her … [and she has] not once made the effort to come and see me in a year unless I ask to."

She added, "I’m just hurt and upset," before asking fellow Redditors to offer their advice and opinions.

In the comment section, many people gently pointed out to the OP that this friendship seems to have run its course.

"I know it’s so hard, but I think you really need to assess if this person is truly your friend and cares about you or just thinks only of herself. Because from what you shared, it doesn’t sound like she cares," one person wrote, while another agreed: "She's not your friend anymore."

Others urged the OP not to let this friendship drama impact her relationship with her partner. "By continuing to ride the rollercoaster with her, you're telling your partner that they aren't as important as your sh---- 'friend,' " one Redditor wrote.

Yet another person chimed in: "Why keep putting in all this effort chasing her? Relationships, friendship or romantic, require mutual respect and mutual effort in the long term. Sounds like this has neither. Skip the wedding and do something cool with your husband instead."

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