Bride 'Flabbergasted' After Aunt Tells Her 'Your Dress and This Wedding Are Very Plain — but Very You'
The bride detailed in a Reddit post that her relative made the seemingly cutting comment in the middle of her reception
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A bride being assisted by a woman (stock image)A bride is still stewing over a comment her aunt made at her wedding nearly a year ago — and she wants to know if she's "overreacting."
In a recent Reddit post, the 24-year-old bride explained that she got married 10 months ago and was "flabbergasted" by something her close relative said to her during her reception. She began by noting that she "completely looks up to" her aunt — who is in her 50s — and was "so glad she was there" on her big day.
However, when she was mingling with her wedding guests at the reception, her aunt came up to her and said, "Your dress and this wedding are very plain, but it’s very you.”
"My dress that I spent hours deciding on, the wedding that I put so much time, effort and money into, and myself — all plain. Not once in my life have I ever considered myself plain or been told that I am," the bride continued, noting of her aunt, "She wasn’t intoxicated."
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Since the awkward moment, the bride has "complained" about it a few times with her friends and family. While her friends all agree that it was wrong of her aunt to say what she said, her family members have taken her aunt's side.
"My family says she was right and did nothing wrong," she wrote. "They say I can’t let things go and I’m too emotional."
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A bride holding a bouquet (stock image)She concluded her post, "Maybe I’m crazy, but I’d never say anything like that to a bride on her wedding day. What do you think? Am I overreacting?"
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In the comments, several people suggested that the bride likely misinterpreted her aunt's remark.
"I think she definitely meant 'clean' and meant it in a good way," one person wrote. "Like she was admiring that in a wedding era that's full of big lace and patterns and color and florals, you stood out by picking a simple, clean dress that let you shine and suited you perfectly."
They added, "I think you've well and truly overthought this one and got in your feelings — and hey, we've all been there — but I'd bet a lot of money that she absolutely did not dream of calling you plain-looking."
Another person asked, "Is it possible she meant elegant vs. busy? Clean lines vs. poofy and overly detailed? ‘Plain’ is a poor word to approvingly describe style at someone’s wedding but I’ve heard it used as a compliment before. Just throwing it out there because it sounds like you don’t have history with her that would elicit such a comment."
Others wondered why the bride was still stuck on something that happened months ago. "Are you kidding me? You’re still upset about something your aunt said to you 10 months ago?" one person commented. "For your peace of mind Let It Go! Live in the present."
Several Redditors questioned why the bride was spending so much time talking to friends and family about her aunt's comment instead of discussing it directly with her.
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Chairs set up for a wedding ceremony (stock image)"Just speak to her about it. Tell her that what she said on your wedding day was extremely hurtful and has changed your opinion of her. Ask her why she said it and what it was supposed to mean, and how she thought you were supposed to take it," one person advised.
"If she apologizes and says something like, 'It came out wrong — I just meant that I liked how it wasn't over-the-top,' then let bygones be bygones and move on," they added.
All in all, people encouraged the bride to give her aunt the benefit of the doubt, suggesting she likely did not mean to offend her niece on her wedding day.
"If you love this lady and she's not usually like this, I would assume she meant, 'Your wedding is very understated and elegant. Just like you.' And move on. We don't always have the best words at our disposal all the time. This was probably a momentary word drought on her part," one person commented.
Another chimed in: "Your aunt loves you she wasn't trying to insinuate anything negative at all, you just interpret 'plain' one way and she another. But I think you should sit down with her in person, maybe over tea or some little snack, and tell her how you feel."
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