Bride Refuses to Let Younger Sister Wear Her Old Wedding Dress: 'I Don’t Want It to Lose Its Significance'
"She tried to guilt-trip me, saying, 'It’s not like you’re going to use it again,' " the bride wrote on Reddit
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Upset bride (stock image)A bride is seeking advice on Reddit as she claims her younger sister is trying to "guilt-trip" her into allowing her to wear her wedding dress
The bride's stance is that her dress is "personal" to her and she worries it will "lose its significance" if she loans it to her sister, who is "not even engaged"
In the comments, many people assured the bride she is entitled to do as she pleases with her dress, with one writing, "It’s your dress and your memory — she can get her own
A bride says her younger sister is trying to "guilt-trip" her into letting her wear her old wedding dress — but she's not giving in.
The 28-year-old bride opened up about the situation in a recent post on Reddit, sharing that she recently got married and had "the wedding of my dreams." One of the top highlights, she said, was that she felt "absolutely beautiful" in her dress.
"It was something I had been planning for years, and I knew it was the one the moment I tried it on," she wrote.
A few months before the wedding, her younger sister Lily, 25, had "casually mentioned" that she would love to wear her sister's dress someday. The bride said she "didn't think much of it at the time," and told Lily she might be "open" to it later.
After her big day, the bride had her dress professionally cleaned, and Lily — who is not engaged yet — then "immediately began asking me how soon she could take the dress for herself."
But the bride has decided she doesn't want to part with her beloved dress.
"I told her that I wasn’t comfortable with that. It’s my wedding dress, and I felt like it was something so personal to me," she explained. "She tried to guilt-trip me, saying things like, 'It’s just a dress, why not let me wear it too?' and 'It’s not like you’re going to use it again.' "
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Two women arguing (stock image)The bride continued: "I explained that while I loved her, I just didn’t feel comfortable with her wearing my dress. She could find something similar or buy a new one that she would make her own. She started telling me I was being selfish and that I was making her feel left out."
Now, the dust-up over the dress has left the bride feeling "guilty."
"I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I also believe it’s important for me to set this boundary," she explained. "My wedding dress is special to me, and I don’t want it to lose its significance."
The bride concluded her post by asking fellow Redditors if she's wrong for not allowing her sister to wear her wedding dress.
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In the comments, many people assured the bride that she has no reason to feel guilty and that she is entitled to do as she pleases with her dress.
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Bride in wedding dress (stock image)"It’s your dress and your memory — she can get her own," one commenter wrote, prompting someone else to write in response, "This. And she's not even planning a wedding! What's she gonna do, go play mini golf in it?"
Another person chimed in: "She’s acting like you owe her your dress. It’s not just a piece of clothing, it’s a memory. And she’s not even engaged! She’s trying to manipulate you, and you shouldn’t feel guilty for setting boundaries. She can get her own dress when the time comes."
Yet another Redditor advised the bride to stand firm and simply be honest with her sister.
"Just tell her you aren't giving her the dress now as she doesn't need it yet," the user wrote. "It would be different once she's engaged and planning a wedding and has an interest in it then, but right now it is still your wedding dress and you're keeping it safe."
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