Married Women Are Confessing The Difficulties Of Marriage That No One Talks About, And It Hits Hard
We recently asked the married women of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the "hardest parts" of marriage that no one talks about. Here's what they had to say:
1."The loneliness, sacrifice, losing yourself, not having an emotionally available or emotionally intelligent partner, and lack of empathy/sympathy. Being told, 'This is who I am,' without a willingness to grow, learn, and become a more well-rounded individual. Why the hell am I still married?"
2."My ex kept a clean house and was an excellent cook. I was smitten and thought I had found my soulmate. However, the moment that ring was on my finger, I became his personal maid. I deeply resented his clothing strewn around the house because cleaning was 'women's work' after the wedding."
3."Married almost 40 years. Great, supportive husband. Helped me pursue my career. Helped parent. Good provider. Great lover. Kids are great; they still like us as adults. Career was fine. It was me. It IS me. I still don't feel like I was good enough. A good enough wife. A good enough mother."
"I feel guilty with how great the kids are because I still feel I should have been able to do better. Hah! And I didn't have Instagram trad wives to compare myself."
4."Married for 12 years to someone I was friends with for 10 years before we started dating. We were in the same friends circle in college and started dating after we'd graduated. Let me tell you something: KIDS CHANGE EVERYTHING. Even having all of this history with my husband, he became a different person once he became a dad. He's a great dad but became a garbage husband once the kids came along. He used to be nice — now, he snaps over anything, but only at me."
"He gives so much grace to everyone else; the handyman, his coworkers, friends, mailman, etc. — none for me. It’s hard because you want to be here for the kids, but your emotions take a hit constantly when you’ve got young kids"
5."The hardest part was rediscovery and redefining my relationship with my spouse and my relationship with myself upon becoming empty nesters. People rarely talk about, share, or prepare you for the adjustment during this phase of your married life. Additionally, as a newly retired individual — my husband has been retired for several years — there is another adjustment period with yet another need to rediscover and redefine yourself and your spousal relationship."
"We've worked hard to weather these changes and have successfully navigated the waypoints in our journey, but I wish we had some foreknowledge of the journey somewhere along the way."
—bjhk
6."We're pretty happy; we laugh at the same things, and there's a lot of camaraderie, but sometimes...[CLICK TO CONTINUE READING]
