Mother reveals the controversial reason she refuses to throw her children birthday parties
Birthday parties are a well-known childhood memory, but one mother has decided not to throw her child any.
Marissa Light recently made a TikTok to explain why she made the decision to not throw her childâs yearly birthday parties. âUnder no circumstances will I be throwing my daughter a birthday party every single year,â her video began.
âHereâs the deal: She is getting a first birthday party, she is getting a Sweet 16 and she is getting a graduation party following her March birthday. Other than that, she is not getting any more birthday parties.â
The mother continued to explain her reasoning, mentioning how not everyone might enjoy a childâs birthday party.
âNow, I have been to many childrenâs birthday partie,s whether they were three... seven... 12... and Iâm sorry, but as someone who did not have a kid at the time, they were not enjoyable,â she said. âAnd I donât even think the kid noticed that I was there. I am not going to force that on my friends and family.
âNow look, if you are someone who genuinely enjoys throwing your child a birthday party, pop off, Queen. Do what you want to do. Iâm not telling anyone else how to live their lives. I just personally donât find it necessary, and Iâm not going to be doing it.â
As for her 11-month old daughter, Daisy, she only plans on celebrating her birthday with extended family along with dinner and cake.
On her birthday, she will also be creating a âDaisy Dayâ which is when her daughter can plan out the entire day doing whatever she wants. If she ever does want a physical birthday party, she would forfeit the âDaisy Dayâ for that year.
âAnd again, if you like to throw yearly parties, throw yearly parties,â she said in the video.
âIâm just saying as someone who has been to a lot of them and kind of felt obligated to be at them, Iâm just not going to be doing it â itâs a lot of stress on my part to organise and plan and put on the party and Iâm not going to be doing that to my friends who donât even have children, my family who, their children will be older. I just donât want a bunch of people sitting around at my house all day.â
After posting many people turned to the comments appearing split on whether or not it was a good idea to make this decision.
Some commenters were appalled to see birthday parties being taken away.
âYour poor kid. Why rob them of childhood birthday parties? Itâs not about YOU, itâs about THEM. Yuck,â one commenter wrote.
Another commenter agreed, writing, âThe kid who doesnât have parties... usually becomes the same kid that other parents donât think to invite at all.â
âEveryone deserves a birthday party every year. Even a small one with a few of their besties,â a third person argued in the comments.
Other commenters didnât have a problem with Lightâs birthday party arrangement, pointing out that every kid might not want a birthday party.
âAn introverted kid will love this. Just make sure that youâre celebrating that kid the way theyâd like. Not the way you want to celebrate them,â one comment read.
âAs a formerly anxious kid, the pressure of âperformingâ at a birthday was stressful,â another commenter pointed out.