People In Open Marriages, Tell Us What It's Really Like

Ajani Bazile-Dutes
·1 min read

Every married couple is different, and what works for one couple might not work for the next. This is especially true when it comes to monogamy. Some couples opt for an open marriage and with that can come some really juicy stories and secrets. So, if you are (or ever were) in an open marriage, I'd love to hear these stories.

A couple holds hands at a ceremony with an officiant in the background
A couple holds hands at a ceremony with an officiant in the background

For example, maybe you're in an open marriage and you were sleeping with a guy on the side. But then, months later, you found out your husband had been sleeping with the exact same guy! Then the three of you just laughed it off.

Three people are talking in a warmly lit room, one smiling at the others
Three people are talking in a warmly lit room, one smiling at the others

Or maybe you were in an open marriage and you accidentally got pregnant by someone who wasn't your spouse.

Person in a bathroom holding a pregnancy test, looking surprised
Person in a bathroom holding a pregnancy test, looking surprised

Perhaps you and your spouse only fool around with other couples, and one of those couples were the parents of your child's best friend. Years have passed, your kids are adults now, and you've all still managed to keep this a secret from them.

Two people in a room; one is shirtless sitting on a bed, and the other, in a floral top, is standing behind, smiling
Two people in a room; one is shirtless sitting on a bed, and the other, in a floral top, is standing behind, smiling

Maybe you're in a one-sided open marriage where you only sleep with your spouse, but you let them sleep with other people because they have a MUCH higher sex drive than you.

A person lies on a bed in a nightgown, looking playful and relaxed, while another person stands nearby. The setting is a cozy, dimly lit bedroom
A person lies on a bed in a nightgown, looking playful and relaxed, while another person stands nearby. The setting is a cozy, dimly lit bedroom

Or maybe you're in an open marriage where you and your partner are allowed to date other people and you two have even gone on double dates together with your extra-marital partners.

Four people sit closely at a table in a casual setting, engaged in a conversation. Drinks are visible on the table
Four people sit closely at a table in a casual setting, engaged in a conversation. Drinks are visible on the table

Tell us your secrets, stories, and experiences about being in an open marriage (or use this Google Form if you want to be anonymous). You could be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed post or video!

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