People Are Sharing The Subtle Signs That Somebody Is Actually A Good Person, And Some Of These Are Superrrrrr Unexpected
Do you know how sometimes you can just feel it in your gut whether or not someone is a good person, but you don't know how to articulate why?
Of course, there are the people in our lives who are so obviously kind, well-intentioned, and thoughtful people, but sometimes the signs can be SUBTLE. Which is why when Reddit user u/Responsible_Cause432 posted "What’s a subtle sign that someone is a good person?" on the r/AskReddit subreddit, there were some really interesting answers.
So, here are 22 subtle ways you can tell if someone is a good person.
1."When someone can admit to their mistakes, especially when there is nothing to gain."
"They say, 'I'm sorry' not out of habit, but out of humility, kindness, and correction."
2."Dogs and little children like them."
And on the flip side, "They are kind to animals."
3."They put back the shopping cart."
4."You won't feel like you're embarrassed of yourself or hate yourself after talking to them. Narcissistic people can seem extremely nice, but you always walk away feeling horrible."
"You will feel like it’s okay to be however you are."
5."A subtle sign that someone is a good person is that they are honest and straightforward. They talk to you directly to resolve a conflict instead of backstabbing you by talking about you behind your back with other people."
6."They don't broadcast that they're a good person."
"Exactly, they will never refer to themselves as such, no social media posts about it; it’s just their identity and not a source of pride."
7."In a relationship or roommate situation, they will do their share of work or chores. They won't be comfortable if their partner or peers have to take on extra responsibilities because of their actions."
8."Also, people that consistently commit acts of kindness when they think nobody is watching means that they are doing them purely to be kind, not to be noticed and praised."
"I once saw a younger man striding along on his phone looking and sounding exactly like you'd imagine the stereotype of the English road man, tough lad to be. There was an older lady trying to get her wheelie trolley up a set of steps, and the younger man just paused, caught the trolley, said, 'One second there now, love,' hauled it up to the top, straightened it out, handed it back to her, winked and carried on with this day. I could see hearts coming out of her eyes. They nearly came out of mine."
9."They pick you for their team when no one wants to. Not because they have no choice, but because they believe in you even when no one else does."
10."They ask kind questions."
11."How someone treats their mom has been a good litmus test for me."
"Obviously, abusive parent relationships do not apply."
12."People who tell you you’ve got lipstick on your teeth or your bag is open."
13."They consistently show kindness when there’s nothing to gain—like thanking the janitor or standing up for someone in a small, unnoticed way. True character is in the little things."
"I’d say a subtle sign someone’s a good person is how they treat people who can’t do anything for them, like being kind to a stranger just because it’s the right thing to do."
14."They get happy for someone else's success."
15."If you notice that the other people around them are also being authentic, it's because they feel like they can be just themselves when that [kind] person is around."
16."They remember the little things—not just your birthday, but the fact that you hate cilantro or always get anxious before meetings. It shows they actually listen and care, not just perform kindness for appearances."
17."It's not about how naturally perceptive a person is, but what they choose to do with what they can perceive. For example, my brother is not quick to see when someone is struggling or there's something amiss. And his arsenal of responses is a little limited, but if I'm feeling down, he will make me a cup of tea or give me a little cuddle. He does what he can about what he can perceive because he cares about the people he loves."
18."Trying to inspire and help others, especially young people."
19."People who say please and thank you for everything are often nice. I work in customer service, and many people are really rude. There's a lot of entitlement."
And similarly, "Watch how they interact with cashiers."
20."How they act around people with disabilities. Being helpful, patient, and understanding without being overtly fake or condescending."
21."Complimenting older people in public. Just a genuine 'I love how your outfit looks' or something indicates kindness."
22.And lastly, "When a meek or shy person gets cut off during a conversation, it's really kind when someone tries to bring them back in."
There you have it, 22 subtle indicators that someone is actually a genuinely good person.
What do you think? Did those ring true to you? Are there any others that we missed? If so, let us know in the comments!
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
