Tayshia Adams' Ex-Husband Josh Bourelle Just Addressed Those Cheating Allegations
Tayshia Adams is on The Bachelorette and she's spoken about her divorce on the show.
Tayshia's ex-husband, Josh Bourelle, recently shared his side of the story on Reality Steve's podcast.
He says "there was a lot more to" his infidelity and their divorce than what Tayshia has shared on national television.
If you’ve been following this season of The Bachelorette (and why wouldn’t you?), then you know that star Tayshia Adams’ divorce has come up a lot. She’s bonded with fellow divorcés on the show about heartbreak and low-key freaked out when she was asked to do a wedding photo shoot on a date.
But even though Tayshia has spoken about her former marriage on The Bachelor and in several interviews since, her ex-husband, Josh Bourelle, has been silent about their relationship. Well, Josh is now speaking up and sharing his side of the story.
The roofer recently spoke to Reality Steve on his podcast. He kicked it off by saying he wasn’t thrilled that Tayshia called him a cheater on national television. (In case you missed it, she confronted Zac Clark after he admitted to cheating in the past. "Essentially, that was like the main reason why my marriage ended," she said. "I will not date a cheater.")
"While she was on The Bachelor, she did bring up the fact that the reason why our relationship failed, in her opinion, was that I had cheated," Josh said. "When that first happened, I said, 'Well, okay, I guess it's fine for her to say it one time,' but now it just continues to happen."
Josh said that "the only perception of me from the audience" is that he’s "the guy who cheated on Tayshia." According to Josh, "that's a slight injustice to me because there was a lot more to it than that." Here’s what else Josh had to say:
He thinks the show is damaging his reputation.
For the record, Josh says he’s been contacted by tabloids in the past and never wanted to say much. But, even though he hasn’t been name-dropped on the show, Josh knows that people have connected the dots. As a result, when his potential work clients Google him, they read all about Tayshia’s perception of their relationship.
"It's been a slight mar to my reputation, because honestly I don't think there needs to be a negative connotation about our relationship in the past," he says.
Josh believes Tayshia was "coasting" in their relationship.
He tells Steve that his relationship was not going well before he cheated, and he says that he repeatedly told Tayshia that he was unhappy with things. Josh says he also suggested going to therapy, but he felt like his then-wife was "coasting" in the marriage and didn’t want to change.
"I was not happy with our relationship," he said. "I wasn't in a place where I was actually happy and what I look for in a relationship is a partner and I didn't feel like I had a partner." Josh also said that he came to the conclusion that he "didn't want to raise kids" with Tayshia, which was a deal-breaker for him. Josh also said that intimacy was "seriously lacking" in the couple’s relationship.
Josh says he cheated on Tayshia once.
According to Josh, he only cheated once when Tayshia was out of town. He went out with a few friends, met someone, and then admitted what happened to his wife when she got home.
"Eventually, because I did what I did, she wanted to put forth an effort, and she did put forth an effort," he recalls to Steve. The two went to therapy for a few months, but Josh realized it wasn’t working. They ended up breaking up after two years of marriage.
He also feels like he was working harder than she was.
Josh pointed out that he was working 12-hour days on his roofing business when they were married, and he didn’t feel that Tayshia was working as hard as he was. "I didn't really feel that reciprocated on her end in any way," he says in the interview.
Josh is kind of shocked at how he’s been portrayed on TV.
He says he thought their breakup was amicable, and he’s surprised at how Tayshia has spoken about him. "I figured we had a mutual respect that we wanted the best for each other after the divorce," he said. "Now, her going out and saying that I cheated on her and that was the reason for our divorce on national TV, I felt like kind of crossed the line on that a little bit because I feel like she was using that as her sob story to make her look better and it was hurtful to me because it wasn't just me that heard about that."
He’s in a relationship now—and The Bachelorette has affected it.
Josh says he’s dating someone now, and he’s "had to do a lot of explaining" after his ex-wife’s comments. "It's not something I really even want to talk about," he adds.
Josh doesn’t think the breakup was entirely his fault.
The way he sees it, Tayshia is just as much to blame for their divorce. "We're humans. She made just as many mistakes, maybe even more mistakes than I did over the course of our relationship," he says. "It would be refreshing for her to actually own up to that a little bit."
He and Tayshia have been in touch since the show.
Josh said that Tayshia has texted him to apologize for the way he’s portrayed on the show. He also said that she stressed the importance of his privacy.
Josh just wants to move forward.
"I'm not trying to put Tayshia down, and I do wish the best for her," he says. "I'm done with that stage of my life. I don't need to go back to it. I learned a lot from it."
But he’s not thrilled with Tayshia right now.
Josh ends the interview on this note: "Quit using one thing that happened in our relationship as a sob story to make people feel bad for you. It’s kind of hypocritical in a way because, I mean, you're calling me a cheater, yet you're dating 25 different guys at the same time or whatever. It's been a tough situation for me, and I'm kind of over it at this point."
Want to learn more? You can listen to the whole interview yourself:
Josh was Tayshia’s first love.
The pair met in college and dated for three years before getting engaged around the time of graduation. They split for three weeks before getting engaged, were engaged for a year, and they were married for nearly two years before filing for divorce. Tayshia thought they would be together for the long haul. “Being a Christian woman, you get married once and that’s gonna be it. You know, you expect that from your partner as well,” she told Colton Underwood on his season of The Bachelor, when she joined the franchise. “But you can’t make someone want to be married, you know? It’s the toughest thing I’ve gone through, and I think that’s what’s made me so strong and fearless.”
They were long-distance during college.
Tayshia told Nick Viall on his “Viall Files” podcast in April 2019 that they went long-distance while she was studying biology at Concordia University Irvine in Orange County and Josh lived in Mammoth Lakes, California.
He owns a roofing company in California.
According to his Instagram, Josh owns D&J Roofing Inc., which does commercial and residential projects. His Instagram is private, but he appears regularly on his company’s ‘gram.
Tayshia didn’t want to get divorced.
She also told Viall that she wanted to work on the marriage instead of ending it. “Just to get the record straight, I didn’t want to get divorced,” she said. “I was in it for the long haul. I mean, I’m well aware that relationships have their hardships and you’re not always gonna love that person or like that person every single day. It’s a thing you need to continuously work on. I know you gotta try as hard as you can, and that’s what I did.”
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