Tell Us How You Found Out Your Partner Was Living A Double Life

Hannah Dobrogosz
·2 min read

Imagine waking up one day and learning that your partner, the person you chose to love and trust, was actually living a secret double life. It sounds like a nightmare, but it's a startling reality for some people in relationships.

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Perhaps a woman you'd never seen before walked into your workplace and confronted you with a ton of screenshots of texts between you and your boyfriend. When you expressed confusion at the ambush and explained he was your boyfriend of six months, the woman burst into tears. She showed you her wedding ring and explained how they'd been married a few years, but he'd grown distant recently. You swapped stories, and each of you began putting pieces together. Though you were rightfully traumatized, you felt extra horrible for the woman who was married to that creep.

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Maybe your wife got a promotion at work and began spending a lot of extra time at the office. She frequently came home late, spent more time glued to her phone and computer, and started having to attend out-of-town conferences monthly. You had no reason to be suspicious until you found a receipt for condoms crumpled up on your floor behind your bathroom trash can. They had been purchased the day before she left for her "conference." You confronted her when she returned, citing the receipt as proof. She sobbed and admitted that there was no job promotion. She lied so she could spend extra time with her coworker and sometimes stay overnight with him.

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Or, maybe you saw your partner's driver's license for the first time four months into dating them. They dropped it while getting a credit card from their wallet, and you picked it up for them. That's when you realized they'd given you a fake name. You'd always been suspicious of their lack of social media. You pretended not to notice, then went home and searched their actual name. Lo and behold, they did have a Facebook account. And? They were already ENGAGED! You blocked them on all platforms, then DM'ed their soon-to-be spouse, who accused you of lying about the whole thing. Oh well, at least you got rid of that garbage human.

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How did you discover that your partner was living a double life? Did you catch them in the act? Did they slip up themselves? Did someone else find you and tell you? We want to hear your story! Tell us in the comments or share anonymously using this form for a chance to be featured in a BuzzFeed Community post.