Wedding Guest Receives Email from Bride’s Assistant 1 Year Later Reminding Them ‘Gift Was Due’
"I was mortified," the guest wrote on Reddit of their reaction to the email
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A bride and groom looking at wedding gifts (stock image)A wedding guest is recounting their etiquette faux pas — and the bride's surprising reaction to it.
In a post on Reddit's "Wedding Shaming" forum, the guest shared how they traveled across the country — and spent a lot of money — to attend a friend's "fancy" wedding.
"Between hotels and flights, probably cost me about $2,000. But worth it. Totally fun to be part of her big day," they wrote.
However, about a year later, the guest was surprised to receive what they described as a "cringey" email from the bride's assistant, reminding them they had not yet given the newlyweds a wedding gift and "it was approaching a year."
"I guess it doesn’t matter — you are always supposed to buy a gift and I hadn't — but they are multimillionaires and I’m far from it," the guest wrote, adding that the bride's nudge about the missing gift left them feeling "mortified."
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A woman reading an email on her computer (stock image)"I immediately sent a gift and never received a thank you," the guest continued. "I never mentioned it, [the bride and I] slowly drifted apart, and surprise surprise, they’re getting a divorce now."
The post — titled "Bride's assistant emailed me saying wedding gift was due" — received hundreds of comments, with many expressing their disbelief over the bride's very direct request about a gift.
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"If I had received a reminder for a wedding gift — from an "assistant" no less — my response would have been, 'So sue me!' " one person wrote.
Another joked: "That email would've been marked as spam with a quickness!"
Others shared the opinion that it was the bride who made the etiquette mistake, not the guest.
"I would’ve sent an etiquette book, since the bride clearly had none," one Redditor commented, while another wrote, "Emily Post is the perfect gift for someone like this."
"YOU were mortified? Why?" a third person wrote. "The bride should be mortified — she's the one who embarrassed herself with such a crass request. Expecting you to spend the money to attend a destination wedding and also buy her a gift is so entitled and rude, especially if she is so much wealthier."
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A table of gifts (stock image)Someone else pointed out that the bride also made an etiquette misstep by failing to send a thank you note after receiving the guest's gift. "Attach the original 'you forgot the gift' email to the one reminding them that their thank you has not yet been received," they wrote.
Yet another person called out the bride's presumption that giving a gift is obligatory. "People cannot command gifts from others. Gifts are always optional," they argued, adding, "You should have given them nothing. People who are well off should not expect anything."
"The 'gift' is your family & friends sharing in your special day!" someone else noted. "A physical gift is not to be expected or DEMANDED!"
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