Woman Asks Sister to 'Switch Rings' Worn at Their Respective Weddings Because Hers Now Reminds Her of Divorce
The two sisters were given the sparklers previously owned by their grandmother for their weddings. Now one sister wants to trade rings, while the other doesn't
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A group of women at a formal event with rings.Two sisters are at odds over a pair of rings.
In a post on Reddit's AITA forum, a woman shared the complex situation behind the rings, which are "not heirlooms" nor wedding rings — though both were worn on their wedding days. The conflict arose after the poster's sister ended up getting divorced.
The woman, 29, wrote that the rings were inherited from their late grandmother's jewelry collection.
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Though much of it was "tacky" or "gaudy" and was later put up for sale, the sisters' parents set aside two rings for them, to be claimed either upon their marriage or their 30th birthday — whichever occurred first.
The rings were "of equal value," the woman wrote, though they held no sentimental value to the family before the sisters claimed them. The woman and her sister, 30, weren't really close with their grandma and the pieces were "not heirlooms," really, the post read.
"When mom gave use these rings, she said we could wear them or not, keep them or sell them, or even dump them in the ocean like the necklace in Titanic; she didn't care," the woman wrote.
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An array of ruby and sapphire rings.The poster was engaged at 22 and married at 24, at which time her mother gave her one of the rings — a sapphire and diamond ring. After wearing the piece at her wedding — and developing fond memories of it on her wedding day — she later lent the ring to two friends on their weddings for their 'something blue.'
Her sister got married last year, but eight months later the union ended. When the sisters saw each other for New Year's, her sister asked the woman to trade rings with her, because hers harbors memories of her failed marriage.
"I like my ring better than hers, and it reminds me of my wedding day," the woman wrote. "It reminds two of my friends of their wedding days when they see me wear it."
The woman decided to keep her original ring, and told her sister she could sell hers if she didn't want it. But their mother has sided with the woman's sister, citing her divorce.
"I feel bad that her marriage ended badly, but she can sell the ring if she doesn't want it, and I don't think I should have to give up a ring that holds so many memories for me and my friends," she wrote.
People in the comments widely agreed that the woman was not in the wrong. Commenters encouraged the woman not to "give into family pressure" and to not feel guilty.
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One user suggested that if the woman wanted to "extend an olive branch," she could plan a sister day where they go to lunch and have the sister's ring reset or repurposed, which could help with making new memories with the piece.
Others highlighted that her sister's bad memories associated with her ring do not outweigh the good memories the woman has collected over the years with her ring.
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