Woman Refuses to Go to Best Friend’s Wedding Because Groom Proposed on the Second Date: 'Going to End in Disaster'

A woman refuses to attend her best friend's wedding because the bride and groom got engaged on their second date.

In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the bride's best friend, 27, explained how she's been close with the bride, 28, for two decades but doesn't want to go to her wedding because she's unsupportive of her relationship.

"If I do go, I feel like I’m enabling something that’s going to end in disaster," she said.

The bride's previous long-term relationship of five years ended about a year ago after she discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her. Instead of taking time to be single and "heal," she "immediately started frantically dating."

"She couldn’t be alone for even a second — she was going on constant dates with different guys, almost like she was trying to distract herself," the Redditor explained.

In November 2024, the poster's friend met her soon-to-be husband. He proposed on their second date, and the bride-to-be said "yes" without hesitation.

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"The weirdest part? She never told anyone she was engaged. I only found out yesterday when she suddenly dropped the bomb that they’re getting married in two weeks and she wants me to be the witness/maid of honor," the woman wrote. "Neither of their families are invited."

In the past, the bride has "always told her friends everything," so for her to suddenly be secretive of her engagement is out of character. Her recent "radio silence" and isolation from her friends has led the bride's best friend to feel "uneasy" and blame the groom for her drastic change in behavior.

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"I have never seen her act like this before," the Redditor said, adding that she and her friends have hardly seen the bride in months. "It's like she's completely wrapped up in him."

Even though the woman has only met the groom "a couple of times," she's "already seen some red flags," including him being "controlling."

"I told her I was worried, but she brushed it off and said she just 'knows' he’s the one," the poster said. "I don’t want to support this, but I also don’t want to abandon her."

She asked the forum: "AITA (am I the a------) if I refuse to go to her wedding?"

In the comments section, many Redditors agreed that the poster was in the wrong. They argued that her not going to the wedding would only "alienate" her friend.

"Your friend needs you now more than ever. You do not have to support the marriage, but you should support your best friend," one person wrote. "If things do not work out, she will need your support and guidance. Be the one to be around and be there to be watchful and see that your friend is okay. And be the one, that if he turns out to be a jerk and is abusive in any way, to talk to your friend and hopefully help her to do the right thing."

Those who disagreed suggested the woman skip the wedding because her attendance could potentially backfire on her friendship if the marriage becomes toxic.

"Don't go. I've been in this situation before and I can tell you from personal experience that if and when that relationship goes south, she is going to blame you and ask why you didn't stop her from marrying him," another user commented.

"Yes, you've voiced your concerns. You need to tell her again of any red flags you see and let her know she's changed a lot since they got together. Also that you'll always be there for her, but cannot support her in this hasty decision," the same person added.

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