Woman Refuses to Be a Bridesmaid in Wedding Because She’s 'Uncomfortable' with Bride’s Fiancé: ‘Suck it Up’

• A woman explained that she's stepping down from her role as bridesmaid in her best friend's wedding because she feels "uncomfortable" around the woman's fiancé, who is consistently "dismissive" toward her.

• The bride feels hurt by this decision and told her friend to "suck it up."

• Reddit users commented that the woman needs to choose — her friendship or her principles.

A woman is backing out of being a bridesmaid because she's "uncomfortable" with her best friend's fiancé.

The 25-year-old woman explained in a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------?" forum that she and a 26-year-old bride have been friends for more than 10 years. Initially, the woman was "excited" to be her "super close" friend's bridesmaid, but she has now decided to step down from the role because she can't stand the 28-year-old groom.

"While I’ve met him a few times, I never really clicked with him," the woman wrote. "I’ll admit, he’s kind of... dismissive of me. He makes sarcastic comments whenever I talk, and I’ve overheard him talking behind my back a couple of times about how 'weird' I am."

She noted that the bride "doesn’t seem to notice" these rude actions, "or maybe she just brushes it off."

The poster's "tension" with the groom has left her second guessing her involvement in her friend's wedding party.

"The more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I felt being in the same space with [him] for an entire wedding," she said. "I don’t want to cause drama, but I don’t think I can pretend everything’s fine when he clearly doesn’t like me."

When the poster expressed her feelings to the bride, she wasn't understanding about it.

"She got really upset and said I was making a big deal out of nothing and that I was being selfish for not supporting her on her big day," the woman wrote. "She even said I was 'ruining' the friendship because I can’t just suck it up."

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The poster knows her decision "might hurt" her friend because she's "not supporting her wedding fully." She said that the two "have been through a lot together," but doesn't think she can get through being in the wedding party with the groom being around all the time.

"I’m worried that by not just pushing through my discomfort, I could be coming off as selfish or unwilling to be there for her in the way she needs," she said. "She’s my best friend, and I don’t want to lose her over this, but I also don’t feel right pretending everything’s okay."

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The poster asked Reddit users if she "overreacted." Most people commented that she didn't but advised her to really think about her decision because it might cost her her friendship.

"NTA (not the a------) but you have to decide what's more important to you — being there for your friend or standing on your principles," the top comment reads. "She's not going to see it how you see it and this could potentially end your friendship with her for the foreseeable future. Is that what you want? (this is not your fault but being realistic here). You could participate and just avoid him. Or you can just bow out but if you don't participate, are you ready to lose your friend? If that answer is yes, then you made your choice."

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