Woman Says Her Friends Wanted Her to Pay for Dinner Bill Because She’s the Only One with a Job: 'It Was Rude'
"They all kept making comments about how they’re in school/out of work, insinuating that I should be the one paying," the woman wrote on Reddit
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A group of women out to dinner (stock image).A woman is left upset after her friends wanted her to pay a dinner bill in full, given that she is the only one with a job.
In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the woman, 20, wrote that she and three of her friends from high school "met up and got dinner after not seeing each other for a while."
Highlighting that the outing was not her idea "but I was invited and very excited since it had been a year since the four of us were all together," the Redditor stated that things took a turn for the worse once their bill arrived at their table.
"We never discussed splitting the check and our waiter dropped it off in passing, and they all kept making comments about how they’re in school/out of work, insinuating that I should be the one paying," the woman wrote, detailing that "two of them are in college full time with work study jobs and the other is working full time but is currently between jobs."
"I work full time — I started working as a night RN in June," she continued. "I was a little taken aback since no one said anything about me covering the bill in full (~$90 before tip)."
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A credit card on top of a restaurant bill (stock image).Thinking a fair solution would be that she'd "pay for my meal and cover the tip," the woman wrote, "But I wanted them to Venmo me the cost of what they ordered."
However, the idea did not go over well with her friends, the woman explained. "They seemed offended and kind of side-eyed me but they reluctantly agreed," she wrote. "They kept making comments about how I had 'a big girl job,' that I could’ve paid the whole bill and be fine, and that I was being selfish for asking them to pay me back."
The Redditor also said she told her friends "that it was rude of them to expect me to pay without suggesting it beforehand and that I didn’t think I was being selfish."
"This happened a couple weeks ago and they keep making jokes/remarks in our group chat about what happened," she added. "And I know that one of them is actually mad at me for what happened."
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A group of women out to dinner (stock image).In the comments section of the post, many users agreed with the woman, stating that she was not in the wrong.
"These people are not your friends. I would pull back from this group and find people who could afford the plans they made with me instead of viewing me like a substitute for mommy and daddy paying for dinner for me," one user wrote.
Another added, "If they didn't have money they could of suggested hanging out at someone's house to visit. What they are doing is immature and rude."
One other commentator, meanwhile, asked the original poster about her friendship with the other girls, "because it honestly sounds like they just invited you in order to get you a pay for their dinner which is really gross."
In response, the woman replied, "The four of us were best friends in high school and throughout the first year of college, however we drifted a bit because we each had our own paths."
