Woman Says She Invited Social Club Over to Her Home — Except for 1 Member Who Calls Herself a ‘Total Klepto’
“What has me the most surprised is that there are so many people defending her,” the woman wrote on Reddit
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A woman feeling left out (stock image)A woman is refusing to allow a self-described “kleptomaniac” into her home for a social gathering — and now members of their women’s social club are defending the non-invited person.
The woman turned to Reddit’s “Am I the A------” forum to ask if she’s in the wrong for declining to invite the member — who has called herself “a total klepto” several times — to watch TV and do crafts inside her home.
“I joined a women’s social club six months ago because I’ve been struggling to make friends after relocating to a new-to-me city,” she wrote. “It took me a while to warm up to the group and to connect with people I actually had anything in common with. I had to wade through a lot of Botox parties and boozy brunches to find things I was interested in.”
After going to events for a while, she found common interests with women who like to read, do crafty things, bake, skywatch, and watch TV.
“Among these women is one ... who has made several comments about how she’s ‘a total klepto.’ I think that she makes these comments to seem ‘cool’ to the other people in the group,” she explained.
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Two women arguing (stock image)The repeated “klepto” comments influenced her to not invite that social club member to her home for a casual gathering.
“I reached out to some of the women I see regularly at these events and invited them over to my place to watch a TV show we’d been talking about and do crafty stuff. They were excited and agreed to come,” she said.
However, the non-invited person ended up finding out about the gathering.
“She reached out to me to ask if she was invited. I considered this for a bit and then told her no, as I only had so much room at home,” she said.
“She didn’t believe me and asked me for the real reason, saying, ‘I thought we got along,’ which yes, is true,” she continued. “I told her I’m not comfortable inviting a kleptomaniac into my home — that I’ve worked hard to have the things I have and it would be stupid for me to invite her knowing that she openly brags about it.”
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Friends watching TV (stock image)The self-described “klepto” then replied with, “‘You’re painting me out to be some horrible criminal when you don’t even know anything about me,’” the woman recalled. “She said that I was a high school mean girl and ableist. I am unsure what the foundation for that statement is.”
The interaction sparked a wider argument in the social club.
“This unfortunately has spilled over to the group, which is frustrating,” the Redditor revealed. “But what has me the most surprised is that there are so many people defending her and telling me that I’m out of touch and take things too literally. Am I? ... AITA [am the a------]?”
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Within 48 hours, nearly 600 fellow Redditors responded to the woman’s Jan. 21 post, with many commenting that she’s NTA [not the a------].
“People should think what words mean before they label themselves with random quirks,” one person commented. “I wouldn’t invite a person either if they openly state they have some unlikeable habits. As they say: If a person tells you who they are, believe them.”
The majority of the commenters agreed with not inviting the member.
“Even if this person had a legitimate psychological disorder, that doesn’t make you out of line for refusing to invite her over,” another Redditor wrote. “I’m sure you don't want your stuff stolen, regardless whether she does it because of a compulsion or just for laughs.”
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