Woman Tells Future Mother-in-Law She Will Be 'Escorted from Wedding' If She Tries to Do Choreographed Dance with the Groom

The groom's mom, his fiancé writes, "has even 'joked' that she should be allowed to wear white as she is mother of the groom"

A bride-to-be says she told her mother-in-law that she would be "escorted from the wedding" if she tried to do a choreographed dance routine with her son, the groom. Now, the bride is taking to the internet to ask if she was in the wrong.

In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous bride-to-be writes that she and her fiancé are due to get married in September 2026, and that, "from the moment we got engaged his mother has insisted that she will be having a choreographed dance with him at our wedding."

The groom's mom, his fiancé writes, "is a self proclaimed 'main character' and has even 'joked' that she should be allowed to wear white as she is mother of the groom."

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The groom's mom has also made several comments about the upcoming nuptials, saying she "doesn't like" the color scheme and thinks that the "engagement ring is tacky."

The bride-to-be adds that, since her dad died when she was just 5 years old, she won't be participating in the traditional father-daughter dance. Due in part to that, she writes that she has concerns that a mother-son dance between the groom and his mom would "highlight" the lack of a dance on the other side.

"I just don't feel comfortable with it," the woman writes in her post.

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But her future mother-in-law is not happy, she writes.

"His mother has blown up saying I will be ruining the day for the whole family by not allowing it and has stated that she will be pulling everyone off the dance floor for this dance regardless," she writes. "I have therefore now told her if that is the case she will be escorted from the venue before the dance begins."

The bride adds that, if she had it her way, she would have a small destination wedding, and that the groom himself "doesn't want a first dance never mind a choreographed dance" and "laughed the first time it was mentioned."

Now, the bride wants to know if she was in the wrong by telling her future mother-in-law there will be no choreographed mother-son dance.

Reddit users by and large agree with the bride-to-be, with one commenter writing: "Since you are not able to have a father-daughter dance, it feels insensitive and even awkward if your fiancé and his mother not only had a mother-son dance, but did a showy choreographed production. Keep the day focused on you as a couple."

Another commenter suggested the bride-to-be plan a dream destination wedding, writing, "[Mother-in-law] is going to be a nightmare no matter what."

Still others offered up a more creative plan to deal with the overbearing mother. "Give strict instructions to the DJ that if [your mother-in-law] tries to do anything like pulling people off the dance floor to do the mother/son dance, they are to immediately start playing the 'Chicken Dance' song. Or 'Cotton-Eyed Joe.' Or 'The Macarena.' But nothing good."

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