Woman Torn After Sister Asks Her to Move from California to Chicago to Help with the Family Business and a New Baby

A 29-year-old woman is seeking advice from the Reddit community after her pregnant sister requested she move to Chicago to help with her family’s business and soon-to-arrive baby.

The poster has been living in California for nearly a decade while her sister and brother-in-law recently moved to Chicago from their home in Southeast Asia, the woman writes in her post.

While the sister and her husband seem to be doing well financially, as the sister works in healthcare and her husband owns a retail business, they’ve still requested the woman’s assistance.

The couple’s reasoning extends just beyond business help: As the poster shares, they believe the 29-year-old “needs some change in her life as she struggles with depression and anxiety.”

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However, the woman is hesitant to uproot herself. “I have my whole life here and my work is funding my college fees,” she explains. Despite her online college program allowing for the potential relocation, the poster expresses reservations about moving to “that cold side of the states.”

Adding to the complexity of the situation is the woman’s long-term relationship. “I live with my boyfriend whom I met in high school,” the poster explains. “We have been together for almost 12 years now. But we aren’t married yet.”

Her sister disapproves of this relationship, primarily due to cultural differences. “My sister really doesn’t like my boyfriend because he doesn’t look decent to her. He has a lot of facial hair and long hair which is frowned upon in my culture,” the poster adds.

While she admits to having “always wanted to be in the same state as my sister,” the woman has a lot to grapple with. “When she moved to the states from our home country, I asked her if she could move to Cali, but she declined as her husband had been living his whole life in Chicago and they didn’t want to move.”

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Despite saying no to her sister’s request for now, the poster is struggling with her decision. “I don’t know. I am just feeling bad and guilty for not being there for them,” she confesses, questioning whether she’s in the wrong for prioritizing her established life in California over her sister’s needs.

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“I was rude to her when declining her request and told her that I had asked them to move to Cali when she first came to America and that it’s her fault for not listening," she adds. "My wordings were kind of harsh.”

Commenters are almost unanimously siding with the poster, however, with one writing, "You get to live your own life. Your life is not less important than theirs or the things they want. Refusing to do this doesn't mean you don't love your sister."

Adds another, "If you are already experiencing depression the seasonal depression of going through real winter could be horrible for you."

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