Woman Uninvites Cousin from Family Thanksgiving for 'Disrespectful' Behavior, Including Rating Her Food as He Eats
A woman on Reddit is fed up with the cousin's inappropriate behavior and invited everyone but him to Thanksgiving this year
A woman has elected to uninvite a cousin from this year’s Thanksgiving dinner after his consistent childlike behavior — though her family doesn’t agree it was the right move.
Seeking advice on Reddit, a woman explains that Thanksgiving is held at her house every year. Though the whole family is usually in attendance, she writes that she doesn’t want to invite her cousin, “who is 29M but acts about 6.”
“The party starts at 3pm but he arrives prior to noon,” she explains. “This would not be a big deal but he spreads himself out on the couch, takes off his stinky shoes, and watches tv. He also acts like I am his servant just because I am hosting and requests water and snacks while he sits on his fat butt.”
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As if showing up to dinner three hours early isn’t enough, she details that his behavior when the other guests show up is “disrespectful” and doesn’t stop when the dinner is over.
“At dinner he chews with his mouth open and talks loudly over everyone. He takes seconds before anyone gets firsts and thirds before anyone gets seconds, which really isn't a big deal since I have lots of food but still is disrespectful,” she continues. “He also rates the food I make out loud and critiques it.”
The poster shares that not only does this behavior continue through dinner, but he then insists he spend the night at her place “because he claims it is too long of a drive.”
“My husband and I try to make the best of it but he is always drunk and snores so loud during the night,” she writes. “Plus, his breath smells and he vomits everywhere.”
Ultimately, after dealing with this behavior for six Thanksgiving dinners, she says that she elected not to invite him this year.
“I did not invite him but invited everyone else. They all asked why and I explained myself saying that if he wanted to act like an adult he could still come but he refuses saying it is just how he is and I should learn to love him for it," the poster continues.
The comments on the post are decidedly on the woman's side, affirming that requesting basic table manners during Thanksgiving shouldn’t be a dealbreaker for most people.
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“He's a terrible guest. If you want to be invited somewhere, it's common sense and basic decency to make yourself an appealing addition to the gathering,” one commenter writes. “Any family members who whine about him not being invited should be immediately told they are more than welcome to host their own dinner with the guest list of their choosing.”
“Are you sure he wouldn't invite himself?” another poses. “With this personality it's very possible outcome because he knows decent people are too polite and don't want confrontations.”
