Boyfriend Accused of Not Taking Relationship ‘Seriously’ for Refusing to Let Girlfriend Move in After 2 Weeks of Dating
“I really like her, but I don’t want to rush things and ruin what we have. Am I overreacting?” the man pondered on Reddit
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A woman and a man being romantic (stock image)A man is “thinking about ending things soon” with a woman he’s been dating for less than a month after she insisted they start living together.
Seeking advice from strangers, the 20-year-old boyfriend spelled out the situation about his 22-year-old girlfriend’s request that made him uncomfortable on Reddit’s “Am I Overreacting?” forum on Feb. 10.
“Things have been great — until now,” the man began his post. “Out of nowhere, she asked if she could move in with me.”
“She says she ‘just knows’ we’re meant to be and that since we already spend so much time together, it makes sense,” he continued. “She also mentioned how her current living situation isn’t great, but I feel like moving in this early is way too fast. I told her I wasn’t comfortable with it yet.”
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A couple arguing (stock image)His response apparently didn’t go over well with her.
“She got upset, saying I must not take the relationship seriously,” he recalled. “Now I’m questioning myself. I really like her, but I don’t want to rush things and ruin what we have. Am I overreacting?”
In an update, the man informed fellow Redditors that things “escalated fast” when he tried to discuss the matter further with her.
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“She kept acting weird, and a couple of hours ago, she flat-out told me she didn’t think I was serious about us,” he explained. “When I stood my ground, she got upset and said she needed someone who was ‘all in.’ ”
“At this point, I’m pretty sure this was more about her situation than our relationship,” he noted. “Not gonna lie, it sucks, but I’d rather find out now than later. Thinking about ending things soon. Appreciate all the advice.”
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Nearly 200 responses streamed into the comments section within three days, with most people telling him he’s not overreacting.
“No, that’s a BIG red flag,” one person commented. “Sounds like she might be riding the crazy train. Cut your losses now and get out while you can.”
The boyfriend quickly replied, writing, “I wouldn’t say she’s crazy, but it’s definitely a huge red flag. I’m not planning on breaking up over this alone, but I am going to set some firm boundaries and see how she handles it. If she keeps pushing, then yeah, I might have to rethink things.”
Another top-upvoted comment read, “She's using you to get a better place to live, or she just falls way too fast. Both are things you need to pay attention to and stick with what you know is right.”
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