Bride Didn't Include Her Sister in Bridal Party but Asked Her to Do Her Wedding Makeup and Help Pay for Catering
"I want to support her but I feel unappreciated," the bride's sister wrote on Reddit
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A bride and her bridesmaids (stock image)A woman says she is feeling "unappreciated" and "used" because her sister didn't ask her to be in her bridal party — and instead is demanding that she step up and help with a series of wedding chores.
The woman detailed the dilemma in a post on Reddit's "Wedding Drama" forum, explaining that her younger sister is getting married soon and making her feel more like an event coordinator than a family member of the bride.
"She has not included me in her bridal party, but has asked me to help with setup, do her makeup and even help pay for catering," she wrote, saying the situation has left her "confused," especially as her sister recently has been "distant" and taking days to respond to her texts or calls.
"Lately it seems like she only calls to talk about herself and her wedding," the woman vented. "I want to support her, but I feel unappreciated and honestly used. She does not want me to be a part [of her wedding party] — but I can pay for stuff?"
Replying to a comment under her post, the woman clarified that she has five siblings, and the bride-to-be only included one of them in her bridal party.
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A bride and her bridesmaids (stock image)Fellow Redditors shared the consensus that the bride is not treating her sister fairly and is overstepping by asking her to help cover some of the wedding costs.
"You should not pay for a thing," one person wrote. "If your sister is old enough to get married, she is old enough to pay for it. If she cannot afford the wedding she wants then she needs to wait and save up for it. You are not an ATM. You are not a servant. You are a family member."
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Another added, "You’re being used. If people can’t pay for the wedding they want, then they have to pay for the wedding they can afford. It’s really as simple as that. Don’t let her use you for free labor either."
Yet another commenter told the woman she needs to remind her sister that the wedding tasks she's been asked to handle are typically under the domain of the bridal party.
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Guests at a wedding (stock image)"You are not in the wedding party. It’s not your job to do anything for the wedding. You are a guest, just like everyone else," they wrote. "You are not responsible for setting up, let her hire someone to do her makeup, and definitely DO NOT help her pay for the catering. The fact that she expects that is just plain rude and entitled."
Others, however, took the stance that it wasn't totally unreasonable for the bride to ask her sister for help with setup and her makeup — but that requesting her to fork over money for the catering bill was taking things a step too far.
"For sibling, I would help them set up and do the makeup, but I would not pay for catering. She can certainly do that herself, and if they can’t afford it then they need to scale back," one Redditor wrote.
They added: "The only other option I could see is if you are planning on gifting her cash, you could tell her you will do that ahead of time so she can put it towards the catering, but that’s it. And no more than you were planning on giving her."
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