Bride Upset Because Future In-Laws Booked Rehearsal Dinner at ‘Bad’ Reviewed Restaurant Without Consulting Couple

“We asked why we were not involved and told them to cancel [the reservation]," the bride shared in a post on Reddit

A bride is upset after she says her future in-laws booked a restaurant for her and her fiancé’s rehearsal dinner without consulting them.

The bride shared in a post on Reddit's popular "Am I the A------?" thread that her fiancé’s parents “graciously offered to pay for our rehearsal dinner” and so the couple sent them their “budget” and a “list of places we would like to have it at with prices attached.”

She said that she and her fiancé “heard nothing from them” for weeks despite sending “multiple lists” and asking them questions.

“About two weeks ago, my fiancé's dad finally called us to talk rehearsal dinner places,” the bride wrote. “Turns out he had already booked something that was nothing like anything we had on our list.”

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The bride noted that the restaurant her future in-laws booked was a “bar” that has “multiple one-star reviews for bad food.” She said she and her fiancé had been there “multiple” times themselves and had “bad experiences.”

“We asked why we were not involved and told them to cancel it,” she wrote. “There was no cancellation fee and they would receive their deposit back in full.”

Her future in-laws then asked for venue suggestions, to which she proposed an Italian place that she “fell in love with” that was located “halfway between our venue and the hotel people are staying at” for their wedding. She said she shared pictures of the restaurant and a menu, but got “no response back” from them.

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She and her fiancé, who she explained were “very hands on during the whole wedding planning process,” ultimately went ahead and spoke to the restaurant, which wrote up a “contract” for them. However, she said her fiancé’s parents were still adamant about holding the rehearsal dinner at the first place.

“Then last night they finally responded with a ‘no we are sticking to the original place’ and ‘we don’t want to start a war,’ ” she explained in her post. “I am beyond frustrated and at this point might book the place we want anyway.”

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Several Redditors weighed in on the dilemma in the comments, telling the bride to “book the reservation you want.” One person said, “[If] you have to pay for the dinner yourself — so be it. Don't start your marriage off by celebrating the rehearsal of the wedding at a place you didn’t ask for and actively don’t even like.”

“If your in-laws are insulted, they should ask themselves why they couldn’t have picked one of the places on your list, or at least actively communicated with you before committing,” the person added.

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Another said, “I think you need to graciously refuse the offer for them to pay for rehearsal dinner, pick the place you want, and pay for it yourselves. As long as they're paying, they can dictate terms.”

Several other people noted that her fiancé should take the lead on this since it's his parents causing the issue.

One person suggested, “Your fiancé needs to respond with something like, ‘In that case, we thank you for your offer to host the rehearsal dinner, but we are going to have to decline. We will handle the arrangements and pay for it ourselves. Please understand that this is no way 'a war,' we simply do not like this restaurant.’ "

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