Bridesmaid Realizes Everyone in Wedding Party Got a Plus 1 — Except Her: 'Embarrassed and Confused'

"I’m not really close with anyone else in the bridal party and now I’m worried that I’ll be spending the whole reception alone," the woman wrote on Reddit

• A Reddit user revealed that she's a bridesmaid at her close friend's wedding, but she's been told she can't take her longtime boyfriend as a plus one

• The poster said she'd overheard another bridesmaid at the bachelorette party saying she was taking her partner, despite her friend saying she was "limiting plus ones to engaged/married couples"

• "I wouldn’t be bringing some random tinder date to the wedding. I think every bridesmaid has a plus one except me," the person shared

A bridesmaid wasn't impressed after her close friend told her she couldn't bring her longtime boyfriend to her wedding, despite most other guests getting a plus one.

A Reddit user shared a post on the forum's "bridezillas" thread this week, explaining how she'd heard at her friend's bachelorette party that some people were allowed to bring their boyfriends and partners to her upcoming wedding. However, the poster said she was expected to attend the nuptials alone, despite being in a long-term relationship.

"I’m curious to hear opinions on my situation," the Reddit user began. "We’ve been friends for 10+ years, we basically grew up together. We’ve always had a good friendship."

The person continued, "A few weeks ago, I asked her if I had a plus one to her wedding. She told me she was limiting plus ones to engaged/married couples, which I am not."

However, the poster explained that she knows that's not necessarily the case, after she overheard some comments made at her friend's bachelorette bash.

"I heard another bridesmaid mention her boyfriend was invited. The bride knew I heard it and made a point to say that it wasn’t personal (towards my boyfriend), but that they were limiting plus ones to partners both bride and groom have met," the user said.

"Her fiancé does not live near me and there has never been an opportunity for our partners to meet. I immediately felt singled out, embarrassed, and confused," she added.

The poster said she just feels "hurt" now, given that she's in a "serious relationship" with a long-term partner. "I wouldn’t be bringing some random tinder date to the wedding. I think every bridesmaid has a plus one except me," she shared.

"I’m not really close with anyone else in the bridal party and now I’m worried that I’ll be spending the whole reception alone. Am I wrong to feel slighted by this?" the Reddit user asked the thread, adding that the bride is also their "first friend to get married" so she doesn't "know what is normal here."

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In the comments section, a lot of people took the poster's side, while others encouraged her to talk to her friend.

"That's absolutely not normal," one person's comment included, adding, "Your friend is being unreasonable."

Another posted, "I was a bridesmaid in my good friend’s wedding and she initially tried to make the same rule, which ended up excluding only [two] of us in the bridal party. Turns out we both pushed back on her and she figured out she wasn’t being very reasonable and relented. I’d ask her to reconsider."

"It's rude and insulting. I'd tell her exactly how I feel and give her a chance to make this right. Otherwise, I'm out," a third person wrote, adding: "You DO NOT allow some boyfriends and not others. It's her wedding, so she can opt not to invite your boyfriend, just as you can decline attending."

"Would your boyfriend even want to attend?" a different person questioned, adding, "You are are not wrong to find this weird, and in your shoes, I'd probably be weirded out too. But it could be a blessing in disguise."