Couple Insists They Need to Bring 3 Plus-Ones to Wedding: ‘Caught Off Guard'
The pair asked to bring three strangers to a wedding, despite not being "super close" with the couple getting married
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Wedding guests (stock image)An individual's wedding stress levels rose after a couple they invited insisted they be allowed to bring three plus-ones.
The person getting married "needed to vent" about the ordeal on Reddit. They explained in a post on the platform's "Wedding Shaming" forum that they're having "a lowkey brewery wedding." Although the vibe is "the more the merrier," they didn't think their wedding guests would take that so literally.
A friend and former colleague, who the Redditor is "not super close with" and sees maybe "three times a year," asked the soon-to-be married individual whether they rented out the whole brewery, or if it would partially still remain open to the public.
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Wedding ceremony (stock image)"I said the whole brewery," the Redditor replied. "He said bummer, his partner had three friends in town and they were hoping to invite them to the brewery to just hang out on the public side."
After the individual clarified again that the entire brewery would be made private for the night, their friend's partner — who they're also "not super close with" — asked if their three pals can "just come to the wedding then."
"I hemmed and hawed a bit and said, 'Well, we’re paying for the open bar,' " the poster said, noting in a comment that they were "caught off guard" and so they weren't immediately "sure how to respond."
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The wedding guest pair argued that two of their plus-ones don't drink, so they would only have to pay for the third plus-one.
" 'Well, I’m not sure how they count for open bar — like if it’s all the adults in the room or what,' " the Redditor responded. "My friend said, 'Well, we can pay for them if it’s a problem.' "
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Stressed bride and groom (stock image)Although expenses are a legitimate concern, the individual is more worried about having people at their wedding who they don't know.
"I'm a people pleaser so I said 'yes,' but then I got a bit uncomfortable with the idea of three strangers at the wedding so I backtracked and said it might be weird for them to be there, and maybe her friends don’t want to hear toasts about some random couple," the individual continued.
They added that they've "also been having a ton of anxiety" around their wedding not being "good enough" because there will be very little food provided and no flowers or dancing. Their budget also only allowed for some of the wedding guests to be invited to their separate ceremony, which has led the poster to feel "guilty" about "making some friends feel 'second tier.' "
The individual concluded: "The whole wedding thing is so stressful and this made me feel like they don’t even want to go to the wedding."
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In the comments section, Reddit users said it was "weird and rude" to invite strangers to someone else's wedding. They also advised the poster to directly deny the couple their requested three plus-ones instead of dancing around the issue.
"I think if OP (original poster) doesn’t explicitly say no, then their friend will absolutely show up with the three plus ones," one person commented. "And OP has no idea how these people will behave. It’s less anxiety to say no then to have them there."
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