New Mom Lays Out Explicit Rules for Her Baby via Mass Text to Family — and Now Mother-in-Law Is Mad
The woman's fiancé's mother "responded with a very long message claiming that she’s had enough of me," the new mom writes on Reddit
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Two adult females having a disagreementA new mom says her future mother-in-law is now mad after she sent a group text to her fiancé's family imploring them not to "overstep boundaries" with her 18-month-old child.
In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous woman writes her fiancé's family has been overstepping "for months."
"Everyone on his side of the family wants alone time with [the baby] at their homes, but we’re not comfortable with that until she can speak," she writes.
So, in an effort to get the family to come to an understanding, she sent a group text.
“Hello everyone, I would just like to address a reoccurring issue," she wrote in the text. "I would like to remind everyone that NO ONE has been given the option to watch (Daughter) at any house, event, or in any environment other than the comfort of her home. This has been something that we have made everyone aware of, but we somehow continue to run into this issue."
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Stock photo of a woman textingThe text continued: "So, just so everyone is on the same page. (Daughter) is not staying at anyone’s home without us present unless we say otherwise. (Daughter) is not going to any event without us present unless we say otherwise. We ask that you respect our choices as her parents, and not question or pressure us to reconsider a firm boundary we have set for our daughter."
"I’m sending this with as much love and compassion as possible, please respect our wishes. Have a great weekend!” she ended the message.
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While she writes in her Reddit post that she expected everyone who received the text "to agree and move on," that isn't what happened. Instead, her fiancé's mother "responded with a very long message claiming that she’s had enough of me."
"She commented on how I was the reason she doesn’t have a good relationship with her granddaughter, and that everyone has to 'walk on eggshells' around me out of fear of never seeing my daughter," she writes.
The woman adds: "This is the first time I’ve ever commented on something they’ve done to upset me, I’m normally pretty easy going," and she ends her Reddit post with a question: "Was my message rude or indicate that I didn’t want them around my daughter?"
Most commenters shared support for the mom, with one writing, "She wants a relationship with her grand-daughter, then she can either plan to come over or invite you all."
Another commented, "You’re setting rules for your daughter’s safety. MIL is more than welcome to spend time with her and develop their relationship, at your house. If she feels like she has to walk on eggshells it’s because she’s trying to break the rules."
However, several wrote that having this conversation by mass text was not the right way to go.
"Texts are bad in general, impersonal, especially when you have to explain," another commenter added. "Gives people the great opportunity to pick you apart. That said, everyone wants apiece of a new baby, especially if they are the first grandchild. It’s overwhelming, but this phenomenon will pass as your child gets older. Fall on the sword a bit if needed to keep the peace. It’s worth it, and be firm about your feelings."
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