Here’s how to nail the ultimate erotic voice note
Ever noticed that sexting can get, well, a little repetitive? The same ‘u up?’ texts, the same ‘tell me more…’ back and forth. Most of us could sext in our sleep at this point (or, at least, our latest Feeld match’s sexts could send us to sleep). Which is why we’re happy to announce that an alternative is out there: erotic voice notes.
See, over the past couple of years, audio has taken off in the realm of all things sexy. You’ll have noticed that apps like Hinge have introduced audio prompts, allowing us to hear a potential date’s voice before you even tap ‘like’ — and acknowledging that, for some folks, accents and vocal tones can be a major contributing factor to attraction. Then, there’s the audio erotica boom, which has seen the world of narrated erotic stories graduate from DIY Reddit threads to female-owned companies engineered to help you (ethically) get off.
But for the beginners out there, let’s rewind it all and start with a definition. Erotic voice notes are a type of sexually explicit audio which tend to narrate a specific fantasy or sexual scenario. Often, these scenarios feature ~sound effects~ via the kinds of sighing or moaning you might hear in porn. The great thing about erotic voice notes, though, is how customisable they are — from the pitch of your voice to the story you’re telling. But whatever form they take, they’re hot AF (after all, there’s a reason that breathy Billie Eilish verse on “Guess” had us all in our feels).
As Gigi Engle, a certified sex and relationship psychotherapist and sex expert at the LGBTQIA+ dating app Taimi, attests, sending erotic voice notes can seriously spice up your sex life. There’s a number of reasons why they’re so good, whether it’s “receiving your own personalised porn”, as Engle puts it, or the fact that “listening to a partner’s voice can be a huge turn on”. It’s also kind of taboo, which only adds to the appeal. “There’s something very naughty about listening to someone describe the dirty things they want to do with you,” she explains.
Of course, there’s also added privacy when it comes to sending voice notes rather than nudes. Given the sad reality of image-based sexual violence and individuals re-distributing our intimate photos without consent, erotic voice notes can feel like a safer option. “There’s a level of anonymity in voice noises that just doesn’t exist with images,” Engle explains. “Sure, someone might recognise your voice, but they’d probably have to know you pretty well to be certain.”
How to send erotic voice notes
If you’ve made it this far, you’re probably more than a little bit invested in the art of sending erotic voice notes, which is why we’ve rounded up the best in the game to give you some pointers on how to put your best vocal chord forward.
But before we go any further, remember the golden rule: before you send any saucy audio material, explicitly ask for consent. This can be as simple as asking, ‘Do you mind if I send you something NSFW?’, and not going any further until you’ve received an enthusiastic green light. No reply = no-go.
Now we’ve got that covered, keep reading for tips from an audio porn producer and erotic voiceover artist on how to send the best erotic voice notes. For ease, we’ve split it into two sections: vocal artistry, or how to make sure your voice sounds tip-top, and creative juices, AKA the ideal inspiration for how to start, finish, and deepen an erotic narrative.
Vocal artistry: tips and tricks to make your voice sound incred in erotic voice notes
Start with some simple housekeeping
Before you record any naughty messages, Kara Hart, senior audio producer at spicy audiobook platform Dipsea, recommends attending to some simple vocal hygiene.
“Clear your throat of any mucus and blow your nose prior to recording — you wouldn’t want the content of your voice note to be overshadowed by a nose whistle,” says Hart. “Drink some water beforehand and keep some nearby to help with dry mouth. And if dry mouth is really bothering you, chewing gum or eating an apple or celery before recording can really help.”
Think about where you’re recording
For the sake of clear audio, keep in mind the basics: put your phone down on a surface and angled upwards towards your mouth so that you avoid any scratchy movement sounds. You’ll also want to be mindful of your surroundings and how to avoid any background noise.
“Recording at home gives you a lot of control over how the recording turns out — it will be clear and you will likely be in a comfortable space,” explains Hart. “If you have roommates or live in a noisy area, you can choose to record at night when they are sleeping or out of the house.”
Consider the time of day
Pay attention to the register and tone of your voice — does it sound better in the mornings or the afternoons? Factor that into your decision of when to record your audio, keeping in mind that you can always save it to send at another time.
For Lost Tapes, an anonymous erotic audio creator with Quinn, mornings and weekends are the best option. “I send my girlfriend sexy voice notes primarily in the morning and evenings because my voice is usually in its more natural register. Plus there is a little raspy quality to it in the morning.”
Relax!
Remember, even if you don’t wear your emotions on your sleeve, you might wear them in your voice. If you’re feeling shy or nervous, consider taking a beat to take a few deep breaths and destress. “Audio is an incredibly intimate medium, and so much emotion is conveyed through the voice — if you’re anxious or nervous, that might come through in the recording,” Hart warns.
Don’t force a ‘sexy’ voice
As Lost Tapes explains, you don’t need to put on a ‘sexy voice’ for this purpose. Instead, have fun with your natural tones. “Play around with cadence and volume,” he recommends.
“There’s a lot to be said about starting a voice note and, as the topic gets to something more spicy or suggestive, [making your voice] become softer and quieter. Maybe even a whisper — a sensual whisper is sexy and immediately gets my attention.”
Don’t show all your cards at once
The easiest way to up the hot factor? Crank up the anticipation by saying certain phrases slower — rolling them over your tongue, savouring the words — and adding in strategic pauses.
“Cadence will help you a lot; play with the other person’s anticipation of what you’ll say next,” Lost Tapes adds. “Let those voice notes linger at times. Don’t show all your cards right away, it’s all about the tease and build.”
Creative juices: prompts for crafting amazing erotic narratives
It was all a dream…
Fancy an easy way to start off a voice note? We’ve got you!
“Beginning a voice note with, ‘I had a dream that…’, or, ‘Remember that time when…’, are good ways of tapping into your erotic imagination,” Hart explains. “Whatever you come up with doesn’t always have to be 100% true — it’s your imagination and fantasy.”
Sweat the small stuff
For Hart, audio can be a great way to veer away from the generic and into specific, detailed observations which can help tap into a partner’s senses.
“Erotica really sings when there’s special attention paid to the small things, especially sensorial details,” she says. “How someone’s hair smells, the feel of the sheets on your skin, the taste of the ocean on your lips, the sound of rain hitting the roof, the look of dappled sunlight – these are all details that could make your voice note more dynamic.”
Tap into your exhibitionist side
If you want to bring your voice note to life, you can even consider recording it in a public place in order to add texture and colour to the audio. Just make sure you’re at a distance from bystanders who, obvi, have not consented to hearing or featuring in your erotic fantasies.
“Recording in public (for example, walking through a park, in a deserted part of a library, on a beach) can add an element of excitement to the voice note, and to the process of making it. Just make sure to stay out of earshot of other people,” confirms Hart.
Stick the landing
How to finish it off? With confidence! Rather than letting the voice note meander on, try and top it off with a bang.
“I think the best way is to end a voice note concisely,” says Lost Tapes. “If you’re committing to your voice note being erotic, then commit all the way with confidence.”
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