"Now She Thinks I'm A Pervert": Married People Are Sharing Their Wild Fetishes And Fantasies, And Some Of Them Didn't Go Over So Well

Last week, Reddit user u/HuntingVorki asked married people with fetishes who didn't discuss them with their partner until after they exchanged vows, how the reveal went — these are their stories!

Submissions have been edited for clarity and/or length.

1."One day we’re driving around together (already married 8+ years and two kids), and I randomly asked him if he wanted to stop at an adult store together."

"He almost gave us whiplash the way he swung the car around so fast in his excitement. When we went inside, I didn’t really have anything in mind that I wanted to buy...just window shopping, I guess. He cleverly steered me over to the section with the cuffs and restraints, and we chose some items together. One of them was a deck of cards with kinky prompts, and we went through pretty much every one of those cards in the next several months as we played together. He had never mentioned any of this being a turn-on for him previously, so it felt organic. Later, he told me he was just waiting for the right opportunity, and I had given it to him in the guise of a trip to a chain adult store." —u/Alli251

2."Neither of us knew what our fetishes were at that point."

"We discovered them together. Sure, we don't both go wild for the same things. We were both willing to try anything within reason at least once or twice. Some things stuck, some did not." —u/ChemistryPerfect4534

3."Be honest."

"I've been married for 30 years and all the kinks have started happening after the kids moved out. Now, the kinks are a regular part of our routine. It’s been an awesome journey, to say the least. And it’s really drove our relationship closer. Although I have to always be in the lead, she never disappoints me." —u/Round_Bee_3824

4."It went very well."

"My wife and I are big on open communication; through that, we discovered we share the same kinks and fetishes." —u/johnny_19800

5."I developed a foot fetish with my ex-wife."

"I used to rub her feet after work. They were size 7 with high arches, and her toes were short and always painted. I wasn't really fascinated with them until a couple of years into our relationship. She was just so vocal when I rubbed her feet, moaning and rolling her eyes back in her head. One time, she was teasing me with her foot to give me an erection, and it just turned me on so much. I finally told her that I thought her feet were sexy, and if she was down, we could experiment with that. What proceeded was her trying to be sexy with her feet in ways that just weren't sexy, they were comical actually. I told her it was fine, and I didn't think it was her thing. But I did appreciate the enthusiasm." —u/daviep

6."I was pretty vanilla when I met my wife."

"Already in my fifties and having read Penthouse Forum when younger, I knew about kinky stuff, but I really didn't KNOW! Before I married my wife, she started introducing me to her kinks, light bondage, spankings & other stuff. It took me a bit to get comfortable being dominant in the way she wanted, but here we are!" —u/tez_zer55

7."I have told my partner what my fetish is and she thinks I am a pervert."

"My fetish is nylons (pantyhose/thigh-high stockings). Yup, so now she thinks I am a pervert 'cause I want her to wear them from time to time." —u/Havenfun029

8."A relationship of mine crumbled because he was hiding specific interests of his that he knew I drew a hard line on. When we had the very open conversation at the beginning, he just lied about it."

"He later tried breaking my boundaries — it was poop stuff...hard NO on poop stuff. On the other hand, I am very open about my fetish to my partners. It really is a very personal thing, and I do not want to include it in our sex life, but it doesn't mean I don't fantasize, look at/read porn of it, or draw it myself, and I'm not about to spring it on someone as a surprise. That's disingenuous and shitty, like how my ex was..and wanted to be, literally." —u/Dreams-Of-HermaMora

9."I enjoy squirters."

"She didn't know she could squirt until our second year of dating. I'm a soaked, happy man now." —u/lifesnofunwithadhd

10."I thought he was fairly vanilla (this is not an insult, I’m a very satisfied partner) until I casually mentioned one day that if he ever wanted to do any kind of butt stuff."

"I’m down. I get my ass eaten nearly every time now. I would have never, ever guessed he was about that life. Use your words, kids. Words are good." —u/thepen-ismightier

11."After we were done having kids — been together 13 years by then — my (37F) husband (38M) told me he was into lactation and I was flabbergasted!"

"You mean I was breastfeeding for eight months TWICE, and you never said anything?! At the time, I was embarrassed about it and warned him about it before he engaged in nipple play. Apparently, he would smile inside and totally get off on it, and I was none the wiser. Such a shame...so many lost opportunities we can’t get back." —u/MaybeIShouldntPostIt

12."When my wife and I first got together she knew I was a boob guy. My previous partner was an H cup."

"My wife was a modest B cup and was super self-conscious about her size, thinking she wasn’t big enough for me. Twelve years in, it’s finally clicking for her that it’s not about the size for me, and she’s FINALLY started leaning into my appreciation for tits. She’s awesome."

13."My preferences are nothing too wild...really just south of vanilla."

"I told her what I liked, and she refused to do any of it. Meanwhile, she had some very specific, non-negotiable requirements. Eventually, I checked out of our sex life. It was incredibly boring and unenjoyable. Unsurprisingly, we are no longer together." —u/spinichmonkey

14."My wife suggested a swingers cruise just because she liked the idea of being naked in public and just being around that sexual energy, she had no interest In the swingers part."

"Well, I've always thought swinging was something I'd be into. I've made casual jokes about it over the years but never dared mention it in a serious sense as something we should try. Well, I decided why not and took my shot. It turns out we both had the same fantasies for a while, but we have now finally come to the point in our relationship where we have a stable foundation to explore that. Turns out we both very much enjoy group sex and partner swaps. My wife has also been able to explore her bisexuality.

We are now a bit over three years into it, and I have basically completed my sexual bucket list and then some. We have sex I don't even bother telling people about because they probably wouldn't believe me if I did. We are both just the average mom and dad you see every morning dropping our kids off at school or picking them up, but we have a dirty secret and a sex life most people only fantasize about. It doesn't always go bad; sometimes you both really want the same thing but are just afraid to say it." —u/sunshineguy84

15.Lastly, "My husband and I are completely into anime."

"I just recently sent him some hentai of a show we watch religiously. He had no idea I was into that, and yet he replied, 'Omg, I love you.'" —u/BriskiPikachuu

Were you able to openly talk about your kinks and/or fetishes with your partner? Tell me about it in the comments!