These Are the Best Sex Positions for Maximum Pleasure, According to Sexperts
If you want to make your sex dreams a reality, you’ve come to the right place. Everybody deserves to find pleasure—and with the best sexual positions for women, you can make sure that you (or your partner) find just that. Since all bodies are different, it may take some trial and error to find your favorites. But these expert-approved moves are a great place to start.
Taking advantage of these types of positions is important because “certain positions are better suited to female pleasure as they enable direct or indirect stimulation of key erogenous zones like the clitoris or G-spot,” explains Aliyah Moore, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist. “Women often prefer positions that provide such stimulation to enhance their pleasure.”
Sex positions designed with female pleasure in mind can also go a long way toward closing the orgasm gap. Research shows that “about 95% of men report they almost always orgasm during sex while about 65% of women reported they almost always orgasm during sex,” explains Joy Berkheimer, Ph.D., L.M.F.T., LGBTQ sexologist. This dynamic can leave women feeling bad about themselves, create feelings of resentment in a relationship, and contribute to lower sexual desire overall. However, an effort to find what feels good for both partners and a willingness to try new positions can even the playing field and reenergize your sex life.
Meet the experts: Aliyah Moore, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist; and Joy Berkheimer, Ph.D., L.M.F.T., LGBTQ sexologist
So if you’re excited to change things up in the bedroom, grab your partner and try out these sexpert-recommended positions for women below.
1. Missionary with a pillow
Whoever said the missionary position was boring clearly never tried out this variation suggested by Moore.
This simple modification allows for deeper penetration and increased clitoral stimulation. “The added support and elevation can intensify sensations and increase pleasure,” Moore explains.
How to do it:
Have one partner lie down on their back.
Place a pillow underneath the hips to elevate them slightly.
The other partner gets on top and enters as normal, but the elevation will allow for an upward angle and deeper penetration.
2. Cowgirl
Giddy up, partner. The cowgirl position encourages friction against the clitoris, which is often key for the female orgasm. “When riding in this position, you can choose the pace, depth, and angle of penetration, which can help you find what feels best,” explains Berkheimer.
How to do it:
Have the penetrating partner lie flat on their back, with legs out straight.
The other partner will sit on top in a straddling position, face-to-face.
Then, the partner on top can insert their partner’s penis or a sex toy into their vagina.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
This take on the woman-on-top position offers the same benefits and control as the regular cowgirl position. To perform the reverse cowgirl, you’ll set up the same way, but instead of sitting face-to-face, the partner on top will face toward their partner’s feet.
Berkheimer notes that the reverse cowgirl position offers a ton of versatility and suggests trying out the following variations:
Have the partner on top lean forward on their hands while bouncing their hips up and down. The partner on top can stay upright and lean on their knees, or they can grind their hips back and forth.
Have the partner on top lean back and support their weight with their feet and their hands stretched out behind them. They can move their body up and down or back and forth.
4. The lotus
Truly get on a deeper level with this intimate position. The lotus position “allows for intimate eye contact, deep penetration, and the opportunity for the woman to control the rhythm and depth of thrusting,” Moore explains. “The close physical connection and clitoral stimulation can enhance pleasure.”
How to do it:
Begin with both partners facing one another.
The penetrating partner will be seated in a cross-legged position while the other straddles her partner’s lap, wrapping her legs around their waist.
5. Doggy style
Moore and Berkheimer both suggest adding the classic doggy-style position to your list. It’s a versatile one, allowing for anal or vaginal penetration, with a penis, strap-on, finger, or other sex toy, Berkheimer explains.
“This position allows for deeper penetration and provides an opportunity to stimulate the G-spot,” Moore adds. “The angle of entry can create intense sensations, and the hands are free to explore the clitoris or other erogenous zones.”
How to do it:
Begin with one partner on all fours.
The penetrating partner will get behind, on their knees, and insert their penis or sex toy into the vagina.
Optional: The penetrating partner uses hands to massage and stimulate the breasts or clitoris.
6. Queening
If you’re looking for sex without intercourse, queening is the way to go for some oral pleasure. “This position gives direct stimulation to the clitoris and several other erogenous zones at the same time,” Berkehimer says.
How to do it:
One partner will lie down, flat on their back.
The woman will place her legs around their shoulders and her vulva on their mouth.
The woman on top can hover or take a seat while holding the wall or her partner’s head while receiving oral sex.
Optional: The partner on the bottom uses their hands to explore her thighs, breasts, stomach, or buttocks while performing oral sex.
7. Spooning
You and your partner might spoon while watching TV or relaxing for the night, but if you haven’t experienced the position sexually—you should. “This position offers intimacy and allows for deep penetration while providing a sense of comfort and relaxation,” Moore explains. “The woman can control the pressure and angle of penetration by adjusting the position of her legs.”
How to do it:
One partner will lie on their side.
The penetrating partner will also lie on their side, positioned behind the other.
The penetrating partner then enters the vagina and performs thrusting movements.
Optional: The penetrating partner can reach around to stimulate the clitoris or breasts for added pleasure.
8. Butterfly
The butterfly position is similar to missionary but with a few fun twists. It allows for (you guessed it) deep penetration, and is perfect for cervical and clitoral stimulation, according to Moore. “The angle of entry and the pressure against the pubic bone can contribute to intense pleasure,” she says.
How to do it:
One partner will lie on their back, on a bed or table, with hips at the edge.
The penetrating partner will stand at the end of the surface being used facing the woman, entering under their legs from a standing position.
How to find what feels good
In addition to trying out new sex positions, there are ways to increase female pleasure in the bedroom and find out what feels good for you and your partner. “When it comes to enhancing pleasure and achieving orgasm during sex, it’s all about experimentation and exploring different forms of stimulation,” Moore says.
One way to do this is by incorporating the hands, fingers, and mouth to discover what feels good. “Varying pressure, speed, and techniques can lead to orgasmic release,” Moore says, who also suggests trying out sex toys like vibrators and dildos which can intensify pleasure and increase excitement.
Another tip? Try to relax and enjoy the moment. “The best thing to do to achieve orgasm is to be relaxed in your body,” Berkheimer explains. “There are things that prevent this, like our running to-do list, the environment, the couple or partners not getting along, body image concerns, or sexual performance anxieties.” Deep breathing exercises and other mindfulness practices can help you and your partner feel safe, relaxed, and ready for intimacy.
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