Man Stops Paying His Parents’ Mortgage After 8 Years When Sister Moves Back in After Losing Her Job

A 32-year-old man says he will no longer pay his parents’ mortgage now that his grown sister moved back in with them — and his parents are now accusing him of being “money-obsessed.”

The man took to Reddit’s "Am I the A------?” forum on Jan. 19 to relay the details of his situation to other Reddit users and to ask whether or not he’s in the wrong for choosing to withhold his financial support.

“For the past 8 years, I [...] have been paying my parents’ property taxes and mortgage,” the man shares in his post. He also explains that his parents are currently retired and have “very little retirement savings” because they chose to invest in their children’s education.

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The original poster (OP) says that both he and his sister went to “top universities” and each “found successful jobs afterwards.” Because of these factors, he explained that he considered helping his parents retire with limited financial stress a “no brainer.”

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The man also shared that he and his parents made a verbal agreement that he would ultimately get a larger share of the house as compared to his sister when his parents are gone due to the fact that he helped pay for their expenses.

The Reddit user then shared that his sister, 29, recently lost her job and moved in with their parents while she attempts to get back on her feet.

The problem? She apparently isn’t moving out.

“I recently found out that my sister pitched staying permanently in my parents' house, and my parents agreed,” the OP wrote, adding that he was “furious.”

“I had been paying for the house with the understanding that it would be sold and I would get a larger share. It is very likely my sister never sells the house and instead raises her eventual family there,” he wrote.

He then revealed that he has since stopped paying the mortgage and is now “leaving it up to my sister to take care of” since it looks like she is taking over the house.

“My parents are furious with me, saying I'm too money-obsessed and should be continuing to help the family while my sister is in a tough spot still looking for a job,” the OP continued, adding that his parents are now telling him that his sister will eventually pay him for his share of the house plus “whatever else I contributed over 8 years.”

“I turned that offer down because there's no real guarantee this will happen and I don't trust my sister to follow through financially,” he wrote.

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“I may be the a------ for taking such a cynical stance and leaving my family in financial stress, but I feel like I was already burned once through verbal agreements and I don't want to get burned again,” the OP concluded.

Reddit users have since flocked to the man’s defense, with many sharing that they think the OP is totally justified in removing himself from the situation.

"They're more annoyed at what OP is not doing for them anymore rather than grateful for eight years of what he has done for them,” wrote one commenter.

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Others suggested that the OP cut his losses — while also noting the importance of getting things in writing.

“Eight years is far too long without something in writing. Even with family, securing legal agreements is crucial to avoid situations like this. It's frustrating, but cutting your losses might be the best decision here,” wrote one Redditor.

“You are doing the right thing. Take the unfortunate loss and cut your future losses! It’s good that you stand up for yourself now before you put yourself in a worse financial situation. Good for you,” added another.

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