23 Unexpected Responses When People Were Asked About The Biggest Boost To Their Sexual Confidence
Redditor u/PhenomenalPancake asked, "What was the biggest boost you've ever received to your sexual confidence?" and responses prove a little kinky kindness in the bedroom can really go a loooong way. Here are some of the best responses:
1."On a first date with a guy who I'd been crushing on for a while, he told me directly that my consent and my boundaries were absolutely important to him. I felt relieved by that, I knew he wouldn't pressure me into anything I wasn't ready for. And that kind of gave me permission to actually explore my sexuality with him in a safe way. We're engaged now. I'm happy!"
2."After I got done going down on a woman, she said, 'That was so good, I might cry.'"
3."I got called 'a fucking goddess' while teasing him. Felt hot as fuck in that moment."
4."The biggest confidence boost I've had was when my bf at the time looked at me during a conversation and said in pure disbelief, 'You really don't know how hot you are.' Took me by surprise and instantly made me horny."
5."I was on a first or second date (we hadn't slept together yet) and ran into one of my short-term exes from a few years ago. My ex went on to proclaim how wonderful it was sleeping with me and how she compared all her future boyfriends to me. I was super red-faced and embarrassed, but it was a huge confidence boost. Went on to marry the girl I was on a date with, and we still joke about it 16 years later."
6."Woman I was hooking up with got back to me after sex and said she she was really sore. This was, like, my third time ever having sex, and I was apologetic, and she was like, 'No, don’t be, it’s a good sore.' We’re in a long-term relationship now. 😂"
7."My now wife had three orgasms and was about to have a fourth, then yelled, 'THIS IS GETTING RIDICULOUS!' Had my thumbs stretching out my suspenders after that, LOL."
8."I was hooking up with a short-lived fwb situation, we were on a back road in the backseat, she was riding me, and I spread my arms out across the backseat, and she ran her hands down them, and in a really breathy moan, she said, 'You have such a sexy body.' Still runs my self-esteem years later."
9."My gf told me I’m better at fingering her than she is. Still think about that sometimes."
10."Back when I was young and I could go multiple times with very little rest time in between rounds. We had just finished and we were trying to catch our breath. She lied on her stomach, and I immediately entered her again from behind (not anal), and she said (in Spanish), 'You are a genius.' Which doesn’t mean anything sexual, but it was the first thing that came to her mind, I guess."
"It was the way she said it, she basically let me know I was exceeding her expectations from the tone she used when saying that. I was able to ride her longer and harder than I have ever done before or after.
I was in a state where I wasn’t going to finish (having just finished) but I wasn’t losing my erection either and the ego boost gave me more stamina than a marathon runner."
11."I told the guy I'm seeing he's better than my vibrator; he said it's going on his CV, LOL."
12."I was extremely in love with this girl I was hooking up with, and we had been having sex for a while (lots of foreplay, fooling around, etc.). She asked if I wanted to finish in her mouth, and I happily obliged. I pulled out from doggy, and she turned around, and I accidentally came literally everywhere. Her face, her hair, the wall behind her, etc. She was so impressed. She said, 'Oh my god, I have NEVER seen ANYTHING like that in my life. That was so hot.'"
13."I made a girl climax and she told me my dick was the 'perfect size' after we hooked up, as in not too small or too big but juuuust right to get off comfortably. Anyways my friends called me Goldilocks after I told them."
14."Being married to my husband. LOL. That man makes me feel like the sexiest woman alive. I used to (and admittedly sometimes still, on the bad days) have really shit confidence. He has changed how I see myself in so many ways, one of them being my sexual confidence. He constantly tells me how hot I am, objectifies me all the time (in a good way, LOL), and tells me how amazing of a lay I am."
"He texts me from work sometimes just to tell me he's thinking about my body and what he's gonna do to me when he gets home. But the biggest confidence boosters are that he still gets hard just looking at me, even clothed (after 13 years that's a huge confidence boost, LOL), and when he cums early, during foreplay or sex...the fact that I'm able to make him cum before he is ready and then make him cum again makes me feel like I am a goddess, LOL. Nothing boosts your confidence like the love and lust of a good man."
15."A crackhead asked me for a cigarette outside of a liquor store. I told her no and she said, 'Eh, I’d still let you hit.' Honestly riding that high three years later."
16."Had not one but two women ask me, 'Where did you learn to eat pussy like THAT!?' I just went off of what you reacted to and played with it. Then played with it again."
17."She said, 'I think it reached my heart.'"
18."Had a short fling with a girl. We were trying new things, and I asked if she ever tried anal. She said she enjoyed it but wasn't going to let my Pringle can near her ass. As an average-sized guy, it made me blush."
19."After some successful love time, my girlfriend suddenly asked me with some suspicion, 'Where did you learn how to do that?'"
20."I was stood at the end of the bed with my hands on my hips, catching my breath after an intense session, and she said, 'You're like a Greek god' with the hungriest look I've ever seen on a woman's face."
21."Back in college, I heard from a friend of a friend that my name was dropped in a conversation about people who were 'the best they ever had.' That was nice."
22."Not long ago, I went on a fishing weekend with my boyfriend. We've been together for 10 years, so we're definitely not in the honeymoon phase anymore. When we're on a camping trip with no shower, we don't engage in any sexual activity because we don't feel clean enough. Turned out my boyfriend was so horny that he spent the weekend telling me what he would like to do to me, having a boner in his pants many times. What gave me the biggest boost in my sexual confidence was the fact that a few times, he got a boner while we were not even talking about sex. I was telling him how good we were together, boner. How much I like spending time with him, boner. A random compliment, boner. I spent the weekend with a man who was hard for me."
23."When my now wife and I were getting into our first time having sex together, we were making out with myself on top of her. When she reached her hand into the front of my jeans, and the second she got a handful of my member, she nervously/excitedly said, 'Oh my god, dude.' And I knew she was the one."
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Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
