'Please Call This Wedding Off Now!': People Are Warning This Man After His Fiancé Requested To Hold Pictures Of Her Late Husband In Their Wedding Photos
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This is a tricky one, but I really want to know what you think about this story of a man whose fiancé made a seemingly odd request for their wedding ceremony...
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"We got into a fight, and she yelled, 'I can't believe you're jealous! He's fucking dead! What, do you think I'm gonna fuck him at our wedding?' I decided to postpone the wedding, and honestly, I'm thinking of calling it off altogether."
People are fighting over this one in the comment section! User DuePromotion287 wrote: “Not the asshole. That is an extreme request. It is way overboard. She is not ready to marry you.”
Agreeing, user Equivalent-Gap5844 said: “Please call this wedding off now. Your fiancé is obviously not grieving her first husband and does not value your feelings. Her insensitivity is staggering.”
“There are times and places to honor a lost loved one; her wedding to another man is not one of them.”
“I’m a grief counselor, and this sort of behavior is one of the red flags we’re trained to watch for,” user RevKyriel said. “Your fiancé is not far enough along in processing her grief to be ready for another serious relationship, and since the two of you have been together for three years, she should be.”
“If I were dealing with your fiancé, I would have referred her to a therapist because she’s in need of serious help. Her late husband should have no part in your wedding because if he were still around, you wouldn’t be getting married. This isn’t about you being jealous, but about her not letting him go enough to move on. Postpone, yes, but if she doesn’t get help, you’re going to have to cancel the wedding, or else you’ll be the third wheel in her relationship with the memory of her first husband.”
Agreeing, user Kep63, a widow herself, recommended counseling.
“I’m a widow of 12 years, and this just isn’t right. I understand she may want a memory of him with her, but pictures of him in pictures of you two are just wrong on many levels!! There are many inconspicuous ways of having him with her. You are 100% right about postponing your wedding and possibly canceling it, too. My thoughts are she isn’t ready to move on yet. She needs some counseling to find out or some deep soul searching.”
One user slightly disagreed, siding with the fiancé, saying the husband needs to recognize her grief.
“Recognize that the late husband likely holds significant emotional weight for your fiancé. It’s important to validate her feelings and understand that including him in the wedding might be her way of honoring his memory,” _annsophie said.
