A woman's canceled Hinge date went mega-viral. Here's what she did next.

The date was supposed to start in 10 minutes. Then, he unmatched her.

That's what a woman recently shared in a viral TikTok with 1.7 million views as of Tuesday. A man from the dating app Hinge seemingly ended their conversation while she was en route to their date. It left her bereft in a New York City subway station, and she raced to social media to document the moment. "This is way too common," one commenter wrote. Others agreed: "This happened to me once while standing on the steps of the building we were meeting in." "It’s truly the worst out here."

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"If someone ghosts you after you've had a brief interaction on an app, they're most likely doing you a favor," says Amy Morin, psychotherapist, author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do" and the host of a podcast. "They're showing you right off the bat that they lack the emotional maturity needed to have a healthy long-term relationship that involves honest communication."

'No rules of engagement'

"Dating isn’t without risks," says Luis Cornejo, licensed marriage and family therapist. "You’re navigating not just your own emotions, but also someone else’s expectations, communication style, and readiness for a relationship."

Issues like unmatching, therefore, are (unfortunately) to be expected in modern dating. "There are technically no rules of engagement," says Kevin Chapman, founder and director of the Kentucky Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. "So what happens is that people have their concept of fairness violated."

Swiftly swiping left and right has also led to unhealthy comparisons and possible irrational expectations about what dating should look like, according to Chase Cassine, licensed clinical social worker.

Ghosting someone is easy, and it's easy to forget there's a human on the other side of the phone screen. But just because it's an easy thing to do doesn't make it any less hurtful. "Her confusion about why their conversation disappeared makes sense," Morin adds. "She was left questioning whether she had accidentally deleted it or he had intentionally ghosted her."

Plus, "rejection can stir up negative feelings within us like feelings of inadequacy, disappointment and self-doubt that can negatively distort how we view ourselves," Cassine adds.

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'Is this crossing the line?'

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"Instead of being embarrassed that she was stood up by her date, she owns the moment, draws the audience into her experience, and then opts to chastise the date publicly by releasing his (identifying information about him)," says Maryanne Fisher, a psychology professor at St. Mary's University in Canada. "This is the point where we have to wonder - is this OK? Is this crossing the line?"

For all we know, "there may be many reasons why he disappeared," Morin adds. "Anything from he is in a relationship and his partner found out to he has social anxiety and he panicked."

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'A chance to learn about yourself'

So, how do you navigate situations like this?

If you're not interested in going on a date with someone, don't jerk them around. "Having a real conversation where you reject or disappoint someone takes courage but it's the kindest thing you can do," Morin says. "It means the other person doesn't have to guess what happened or they don't have to waste mental energy questioning what happened."

And if someone unmatches you or otherwise ghosts you, take the time for some self-reflection. Cornejo says: "Ask yourself: Did this align with my values? What did I learn about what I want – or don’t want – in a relationship? You can’t always avoid being disappointed, but setting boundaries and prioritizing your time and emotional energy can make it easier to bounce back when things don’t go as planned."

That way, you have "a chance to learn about yourself, grow, and connect in meaningful ways – when the right person comes along."

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