"Are You Implying That I Killed My Wife?": 35 Horrifying Photos That Show Just How Awful Modern Dating Is

Dating is TOUGH these days. Apps have made things more superficial than ever, turning dating into an algorithm, and strangers basically have a free pass to send you creepy and offensive messages. And then, even if you find someone to date, you're risking your safety and sanity by getting to know them. In an increasingly divided political atmosphere, where hate speech is brushed aside or even celebrated, options are getting even slimmer in terms of finding someone who respects your bodily autonomy and your rights as a woman, BIPOC, or LGBTQ person. TL;DR: It's brutal out here.

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Don't believe me? Check out the following suitors.

1.Dating is so bad right now that this unhinged Snapchat has me going, "Well, at least he's straightforward."

Snapchat message reads, "I wanna put a baby in you," on a dark background
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2.You gottta love when someone has a bio like this and immediately asks to see your boobs.

Profile states desire for sincere life partner. Conversation text: "Hey what's up?" and request to see uncovered "bad bois."
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3."You know what's made online dating even better? AI." — No One.

A person shares a story about discovering their Bumble date was an AI. They reflect on their emotions and question the ethics of using AI in dating apps
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4.Modern dating apps are GREAT because you can see the person and decide if you want to talk to them! And no one would ever use an AI pic — you're totes talking to the exact person you see on their profile!

Person in pinstripe suit stands confidently in front of a luxury car
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5.Another benefit of dating apps...people being honest from the start about exactly what they want!

A person updates their dating profile bio, then exchanges messages about enjoying work and being busy. The conversation is friendly and lighthearted
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6.But the best part of online dating? I think I'd have to say when it ends with you being LITERALLY STALKED.

Text conversation where one person repeatedly asks "Where did u go?" and the other responds they just received the messages at once. Includes an obscured image
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7.Advice for anyone looking for a partner: maybe don't track someone down through Facebook to message them months after briefly chatting on another app.

A conversation from a dating app, involving small talk and casual flirting, with a humorous message referring to Reddit
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8.And definitelyyyyy don't find them on MICROSOFT TEAMS.

Screenshot of a chat message saying, "Hey [name], FYI I saw your profile and swiped right lol."
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9.Another pro tip: don't mention rape. Like, ever. (Or maybe do, so people know to stay far, far away from you.)

A series of text messages with troubling content about inappropriate behavior and consent
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10.Not even as a joke!!!

Text conversation: "Hey, how was your day?" Reply: Apology for being harsh, mentions lack of experience in Canadian dating, acknowledges historical progress
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11.One more tip: maybe don't imply that someone killed their dead wife.

Text conversation discussing the sensitivity of revealing a widower status on a dating app, expressing concern about trauma
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12.People tend to go from zero to 100 real fast on the apps.

A text conversation discussing hobbies turns awkwardly personal with a blunt question
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13.Like, why does anyone feel this is an okay thing to text after a first date?

Text conversation with flirty and intimate messages exchanged, including compliments on kissing and mention of self-pleasure
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14.People are sooooo understanding when it takes you a few hours to reply because you're, you know, AT WORK.

Message exchange: Hostile text followed by a calm response offering advice on handling feedback and emphasizing not to respond impulsively
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15.It's not just women dealing with bullshit in dating. The entitlement is wild with all genders.

Screenshot of a text message expressing reluctance to date and asking for financial support in exchange for companionship
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16.But I'd be remiss not to point out that women deal with men who feel entitled to sex allllll the time.

Text conversation: Two people discuss enjoying a movie together; one mentions they didn't want to be intimate. The other person expresses frustration
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17.Careful if the man you're dating insists on paying for your dates. He may completely change his mind and send you a literal invoice if you break things off.

Email demanding $67.10 repayment for shared expenses, detailing split costs for various outings and mentioning lost money and challenges in transferring funds
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18.I'm actually in awe that this person thought this was a normal response and ensuing conversation to an innocent question.

Chat conversation about farm work; one person mentions shooting pigs, causing distress to another, who responds with empathy
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19.Why are people so combative on dating apps nowadays???

Screenshot of a text conversation discussing initial interest and questioning true intentions, ending with "Who hurt you."
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20.Like, do you think being combative or rude is going to get someone to change their mind?

Text message exchange discussing meeting downtown, with one person candidly expressing reluctance to travel far compared to being in Korea
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21.Just don't be mean for no reason! It's that easy!

Text conversation about online dating, with one person questioning the other about their ad clarity and identity
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22.It's so easy to just...not message someone?

A conversation where one person expresses frustration over being repeatedly liked on dating apps over 7 years, despite not recognizing the other person
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23.People feel especially entitled to be creeps if you look goth, I guess.

Text conversation: Person mentions shared traits, veganism, and playing a role. Another message comments on Gothic style and attitude's impact on communication
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24.Or if you're Asian.

Text about a wealthy man's preference for Asian women, highlighting stereotypes about their appearance and personality
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25.What is it with people basically ghosting you, then popping back in a month or more later, expecting to sext?

Text conversation discussing boredom, distance, and inappropriate exchange proposal. Final message asks if the other person is okay
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26.This list of rules for a date is giving majorrrr neckbeard incel.

Summary of text: Kissing or touching on a first date is optional, but if declined, one should state they're desirable to avoid seeming undesirable
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27.Dating shouldn't have "rules."

Chat conversation about meeting preferences and relationship rules, highlighting a miscommunication over wanting a partner versus friendship
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28.What an opener.

A text message reads: "Hello Goddess, is it bad I wish I was your human toilet" with peach and toilet emojis
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29.Why do people think this is acceptable?

Screenshot of a text conversation with one sender expressing a controversial statement and the recipient rejecting it with a disgusted emoji
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30.This was...a choice.

Text message exchange: "Hey" followed by "I was planning on destroying your insides but your profile says you are already dead inside."
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31.This opener is just baffling to me. Where did they think this was going to get them?

Text conversation with a person commenting on messy hair; the response questions their rudeness and suggests straightening hair
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32.Some current dating problems are age-old. Don't stand people up. Just don't.

A person expresses disappointment about being unmatched after arranging a date, highlighting wasted time and the importance of clear communication
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33.Also, let people know if you're going to cancel.

Phone message exchange: Sarah asks about meeting. Recipient replies they're not feeling well. Sarah responds, "Feel better soon!"
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34.Ghosting, of course, is still prevalent.

Text conversation with jokes about goats and fried Oreos, followed by plans to meet up later
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35.And finally...I have no words for this dating app message.

Text summarizing an explicit and graphic hypothetical scenario involving an egg and body parts
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