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Canadian influencer Rini Frey says she faces her 'biggest insecurities' as a mom: 'I hate that I get this way'

The mom of two opened up about getting "triggered" by her kids, and the lessons she's learned.

Canadian influencer Rini Frey reflected on confronting her 'biggest insecurities' as a mom. (Instagram/@ownitbabe)
Canadian influencer Rini Frey reflected on confronting her 'biggest insecurities' as a mom. (Instagram/@ownitbabe)

Canadian influencer Rini Frey opened up about the challenges of parenthood in a candid Instagram post on Tuesday. The mom shared a series of photos and messages that delve into her "biggest insecurities," and detailed the impact her children have had on her and personal growth.

The series begins with a selfie of Frey and her husband in their car, accompanied by text stating, "Having kids forces you to face your biggest insecurities... Think about it." In the following slide, Frey and her husband are pictured holding hands in a field, with text elaborating, "With your spouse, you don't typically get triggered. You're not made to face the things you hate about yourself the way you do with your kids."

Frey confessed that while her husband doesn't normally trigger her impatience, her children do. "When my toddler doesn't listen or when my baby doesn't stop crying and I feel triggered I get rude, frustrated, impatient, and short tempered," she penned. Alongside a selfie, she wrote: "I hate that I get this way. These are my worst traits. And yet, I can't seem to help it when I'm in the moment."

Frey acknowledged that parenthood often feels like she is forced to look at herself in a giant mirror.

"Being a parent feels like I'm in a big empty room and my kids are standing in front of me holding up a giant mirror to my face. This is the worst," she wrote over a black and white photo of herself, her husband, and their two children.

The final snaps in the carousel, including one of Frey hugging her daughter and another of the family in matching outfits, reinforced her evolving understanding of parenthood. "They force me to look into the depths of myself, where the worst parts are hidden, and making me want to be better for them," one message read.

I finally understand why people say, 'My kids make me a better person.'Rini Frey, via Instagram

Fans met Frey's "vulnerable" post with applause and supportive messages in the comments.

"This is so raw and true. Thank you for bringing light to this," one Instagram user agreed.

"I absolutely couldn't agree with this more. Especially the mirror analogy," added another.

"I needed to see this, especially from someone I look up to as much as I do you. Thank you for making me feel less alone," a commenter shared.

"Oh wow, I don't think I've ever related to anything so much," a fan wrote. "Maybe this is exactly why parenting is so challenging, because we are forced to face these things we don't think about ourselves. Also why it seems to be a bit easier for people don't self analyze or criticize themselves as much as those that do."


Frey, who is known for her honest takes on motherhood, opened up in January about feeling "imposter syndrome" as a mom. She shared her doubts and insecurities, admitting she doesn't always feel "qualified" for the job.

"Does anyone else get mom imposter syndrome? Like, I'm just a girl. I'm not a grown up. How am I capable of taking care of two small children?," the on-screen text read, over footage of Frey feeding her youngest child. "Who gave me permission? Are all the other moms going to find out that I'm not qualified? I have zero credentials, I'm just out here completely winging it."

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