'Golden Bachelor' couple Gerry Turner and Theresa Nist to divorce after 3 months. What to know about 'grey divorce' — with cases on the rise

In an unexpected twist that has captivated fans nationwide, Gerry Turner and Theresa Nist of "The Golden Bachelor" have announced their divorce after just three months of marriage. Despite their whirlwind romance and public declarations of love on the hit show, the couple has decided to part ways, citing distance and personal priorities.

The couple, who became the face of senior romance, shared their heartfelt decision in a joint interview on "Good Morning America," emphasizing that the choice was mutual and made after deep reflection on their living situations and personal priorities. They acknowledged how their story inspired many singles in their 70s looking for love, adding they were nervous to share the news.

"We have received so much love and support from so many people who watch the 'Golden Bachelor' and I don't think we can tell you how many people told us it gave them so much hope," Nist said. "We want none of that to change for anybody."

Their split not only shocked their fanbase but also reignited discussions on grey divorce, and the complexities of finding and maintaining love later in life. Grey divorce, typically involving couples over 50, has seen a rise in recent years, influenced by evolving societal attitudes and longer life expectancies.

While Turner and Nist's marriage might not fit the traditional timeline of a grey divorce, their high-profile split highlights the complexities and unpredictabilities of relationships at any age.

Grey divorce is on the rise in Canada

It's a tale familiar to Christine Dafoe, a 65-year-old Canadian who, after 41 years of marriage, chose to prioritize her happiness and well-being by embarking on her own journey of independence.

Dafoe, talking to Yahoo Canada earlier this year, described her divorce as "scary, but also a relief." At 65, it's daunting to start a new chapter but Dafoe was adamant about prioritizing herself and her happiness. "It was getting really toxic and controlling. There was emotional abuse going both ways, but he blamed me for everything," Dafoe said. "And so we separated."

According to Statistics Canada, the average age of marriage in 2019 was 35 years old, meaning people were choosing to marry at a later age than decades ago. Similarly, more data shows that divorces are occurring at increasingly older ages. In 2020, the average age of divorce was 46 years old.

The agency said, the "rise of grey divorce in Canada, which coincided with the arrival of the baby-boom cohort into this age group, was however quite modest compared with the doubling of levels observed in the United States over a similar period."

Yahoo Canada spoke to experts to get insight into the rise of grey divorces and what someone might expect if they are divorcing at an older age. Here's what you need to know.

Why are people getting divorced later in life?

Grey divorce refers to the phenomenon of divorce among couples over the age of 50. These divorces often occur after decades of marriage and can present unique challenges related to financial security, retirement planning, and emotional adjustment.

Though the rise of grey divorce can be attributed to factors such as longer life expectancies and changing attitudes towards marriage and divorce, Ravit Rose, a divorce coach and researcher based in Montreal, said sometimes it's as simple as not feeling a connection anymore.

She added because there is less stigma towards divorce — and people feel like it's more of an option now — people might very well want to try to be independent and leave arguments or disagreements behind.

"They start to realize that one has evolved much faster than the other one, and because they're not evolving at the same level, that disconnect causes them to want a divorce," Rose said.

Of course, she added that there are also a myriad of other reasons why people choose to separate.

What makes grey divorces so difficult?

Rose is also the founder of the Irooze Divorce Community, where she and her team study the science of "nasty divorces" compared to "amicable divorces." After clients fill out an assessment, they are offered a consultation and referred to professionals who specialize in divorce.

For the women over 50 she has seen in the past six months, she said about half of them have no income and no separate savings account.

"When they're talking about getting divorced, their biggest worry is that they're not financially independent," said Rose. "They [say] things like 'I feel petrified, I'm uncomfortable, I'm sad, I'm angry.'"

After decades of marriage, finances are often deeply intertwined. Untangling assets, pensions, retirement accounts and property can be complex and may require the assistance of financial advisors or legal professionals.

Splitting assets can also have significant implications for each spouse's financial security in retirement. In 2018, Statistics Canada reported senior women aged 65 and over are more likely to live in low-income households than their male counterparts.

Rose said the women who reported in their self-assessment as feeling more optimistic about their divorces were those who may have been the main income earners or felt more financially independent.

Other challenges for those going through a grey divorce include rebuilding social networks and support systems, navigating adverse effects on physical and mental health and finding new living arrangements.

Dafoe, who sold her shared property with her ex-husband last November said she's now trying to find a new spot for this upcoming April. She found a group called Senior Women Living Together, where participants create a profile and try to find likely roommates.

Arrangements like these can relieve financial stress from separation while building new networks and friendships.

Dafoe said that although it can be scary, moving in with the ladies she has met in the group is something she’s looking forward to, adding that she feels comfortable enough and hopes everything will work out.

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